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Posts by Zanick
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2017-06-25 at 10 PM UTC in what to do when your on summer break but in your late 20s
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2017-06-25 at 9:59 PM UTC in If I let you know where I live...A shower
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2017-06-25 at 9:57 PM UTC in what to do when your on summer break but in your late 20sVolunteer your time to help the less fortunate
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2017-06-19 at 6:35 PM UTC in Clones got you down? Fear no more (maybe)My bank lets you have a balance of -$4.99 and only charges the overdraft fee once you hit -$5, it's like free money wtf
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2017-06-19 at 10:12 AM UTC in Your perfect filmHarrison Ford makes me wet
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2017-06-19 at 8:23 AM UTC in Corrupt a WishGranted, but you become notorious for defacing it and are hunted down for the rest of your days.
I wish I could manipulate people as easily as pulling strings on a marionette. -
2017-06-19 at 4:11 AM UTC in Robbing a bankbump
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2017-06-18 at 8:51 PM UTC in Good sequelsLord of the Rings: The Two Towers
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2017-06-18 at 8:51 PM UTC in went to sleep wif 20 xanasesYeah, that's not terribly unusual
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2017-06-18 at 12:42 AM UTC in Ayyyy, used to tell hoes I was dark light, or off whitewhat is the url for TC nowadays?
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2017-06-18 at 12:41 AM UTC in I've got a theory why Darth Beaver self destructed & left.They have one blooming in the Chicago Botanic Garden rn but I don't feel like going into the city
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2017-06-18 at 12:38 AM UTC in saw a rattlesnake
Originally posted by mmQ didd you go to rount mushmore?
I did, it was underwhelming. Much better and not too far from Keystone, SD, is the Crazy Horse Memorial. It's not finished because the sculptors refuse to accept federal funding for the project, but they had completed the face when I saw it. When it's finally done, all of Mount Rushmore will fit inside of just its head.
This is it now:
And this is what it will look like upon completion, which is almost certainly more than fifty years away:
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2017-06-17 at 11:12 PM UTC in saw a rattlesnake
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2017-06-17 at 5:59 PM UTC in saw a rattlesnakeI was in South Dakota a few weeks ago with my dad, hiking through the Badlands when I heard an aggressive sounding rattle in the grass just a foot in front of me. I jumped back about 6 feet and knocked my dad on his back, lol. Then we hung around the trail for a little bit, worning other hikers.
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2017-06-17 at 5:58 PM UTC in What kind of nightmares do you have?As a child I used to have terrible terrors in which was where my family was sexually assaulted by vampires and slaughtered in front of me
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2017-06-17 at 4:26 AM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Click Here for AIDStry slipping and injuring yourself at a mid-sized hotel chain. big enough to have a comprehensive insurance policy and small enough that they'd prefer to settle.
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2017-06-17 at 4:10 AM UTC in Post a time you were embarrassed
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2017-06-17 at 3:07 AM UTC in Post a time you were embarrassedOnce, after I got off work, I was driving home and picking up my nose. I mean, I had my finger jammed way the hell up there. Stopped at a red light, still picking. I look to my right, to see none other than my boss, and he was looking directly at me. I thought about bringing it up in my exit interview, but decided this was inadvisable.
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2017-06-16 at 9:30 PM UTC in Who here has contemplated suicide?Do you suffer more so from suicidal ideation, or have you had a plan? Why are you still here, after all that?
Obligatory 'help yourself' plug: If you are currently suicidal, I urge you to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ASAP at 1-800-273-8255. I've done it before, it does help to have someone to talk to, and they will welcome your call even if you aren't going to do it right now. -
2017-06-16 at 9:27 PM UTC in In all seriousness though...
Originally posted by Captain Falcon Listen I understand this. I get it. The problem is squarely with the fact that there is no utility in hugging on someone who has trapped themselves in depression. It just enables their shitty decision making. It's way more useful in every single way to make them aware that you're saying it from a place of love, but the way they're acting is no good. It's understandable, but it's wrong. The more people fees into the victim mentality, the less impetus they have to take command.
I am giving concrete options here; one of the most important aspects of beating depression is the feeling of command over your own life. There are lots of ways to do this. And one way you can help give the feeling of control to someone who is depressed, is to give them options.
In that video I linked, the biggest point IMO is creating specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound goals. The best way to help someone out of their rut is to give them achievable options that are within their grasp, and they are fully capable of beginning to achieve.
Ultimately, nobody can give you the magical pill of action, you're going to have to take action yourself. What I'm trying to do is lower the barrier to entry for HTS; part of what makes depression so crushing is that your lack of agency feels monolithic, you feel helpless because getting friends or whatever seems like a big, scary thing that you can't do because the end goal is so far away. I want to bring that down and give him the first steps he can take.
That's the best I can do, and it's the best anyone can do, and it's certainly way better than enabling their illness.
I'm fighting tooth and nail to pull myself out of a depressive episode, and this really hit a positive note with where my recovery is at. Legit, thank you, nigga.
