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2017-06-26 at 7:23 PM UTC in MXEI shouldn't even be here today!The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-06-16 at 8:33 PM UTC in In all seriousness though...
Originally posted by mmQ It's interesting because both sides are correct, in a way. If there isn't a viewpoint such as Falco is taking, then it does very much enable the depressee to remain depressed, getting affirmation from others that what they are experiencing is in fact impossible or extremely difficult to get out of, and thus making the choice to remain in the rut that much easier.
On the other hand, it's also frustrating from a depressed standpoint to hear the VERY TYPICAL, 'I know you're better than this, just SNAP OUT OF IT,' outlook. That's where, Falco, despite what seems obvious as your best intentions here, shit gets fuzzy, because the longer a person is unable to snap out of it (and that part has to do with the actual illness, the EXTREME difficulty), it makes a person feel even MORE worthless (why can't I snap out of it like Falco says?? I know I'm smart! Why can't I fucking do it?} and as it continues to not happen, it reinforces itself. It is very much a double edged sword.
I have always thought of treating depression like having to walk to the hospital with two broken legs. Once you get to the hospital it will get better, but you're goddamn legs are broken, and you HAVE TO WALK.
It's all very fucky, and that's all I have to say for now. :)
Listen I understand this. I get it. The problem is squarely with the fact that there is no utility in hugging on someone who has trapped themselves in depression. It just enables their shitty decision making. It's way more useful in every single way to make them aware that you're saying it from a place of love, but the way they're acting is no good. It's understandable, but it's wrong. The more people fees into the victim mentality, the less impetus they have to take command.
I am giving concrete options here; one of the most important aspects of beating depression is the feeling of command over your own life. There are lots of ways to do this. And one way you can help give the feeling of control to someone who is depressed, is to give them options.
In that video I linked, the biggest point IMO is creating specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound goals. The best way to help someone out of their rut is to give them achievable options that are within their grasp, and they are fully capable of beginning to achieve.
Ultimately, nobody can give you the magical pill of action, you're going to have to take action yourself. What I'm trying to do is lower the barrier to entry for HTS; part of what makes depression so crushing is that your lack of agency feels monolithic, you feel helpless because getting friends or whatever seems like a big, scary thing that you can't do because the end goal is so far away. I want to bring that down and give him the first steps he can take.
That's the best I can do, and it's the best anyone can do, and it's certainly way better than enabling their illness. -
2017-06-16 at 5:47 PM UTC in I want to shoot up an Arianna Grande concertif you can prove spectrals a faggot I'll suck zanicks dick while he sucks mmq's dick, while he sucks [insert name]'s dick.
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2017-06-16 at 5:05 PM UTC in Back against the wall...Go all in.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-06-16 at 4:11 AM UTC in Old ass monitors at goodwillThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-06-15 at 11:06 PM UTC in Novel ideasA novel about a bunch of douchebags and their intense, histrionic interactions on am obscure 3rd generation internet forum.
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2017-06-15 at 9:33 PM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Click Here for AIDSWell, being banned for a day was surprisingly easy. May even have been good for my mental health.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-06-15 at 2:54 AM UTC in Guess the pictureHe's left handed. Kurt Cobain?The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-06-14 at 8:49 PM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Click Here for AIDS
Originally posted by Zanick That's generous of you to offer but I'm also paralyzingly shy, I've flaked on most everyone who reaches out to me
I just want you to know that the option is there. Dont ever feel alone, because you know that you have someone to talk to, but you are simply making the decision not to. Doesn't sound lonely in my books :)The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2017-06-13 at 9:56 PM UTC in I want to shoot up an Arianna Grande concertYou do realize that these parents had multiple children, siblings , parents, aunts, uncles, relatives? But yiub proposed they are ALL in on it. ALL KEEPING QUIET.
Lol.
"Oh yeah that's OK make my daughter and son-in-law and grandkids all disappear, I didn't really like them anyway."The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2017-06-13 at 4:19 AM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Click Here for AIDS
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2017-06-11 at 10:21 PM UTC in Fruitzanick you sneaky fuck
FUCKING BOLLOCKS WILLIEBUMTITPOO
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2017-06-08 at 3:32 AM UTC in Drunken Debauchery and Summer MiseryThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-06-07 at 7:48 PM UTC in Drunken Debauchery and Summer Misery
Originally posted by Captain Falcon Idc what you say, I still think that was funny, lol.
It's funny NOW since I'm no longer a poorfag. Man I really couldve used some real cash then, I was so excited the day it arrived, and you'll love this, it weighed too much and you didn't pay enough in postage so I had to pay the mail lady like 1.25 or something to even get it.
IMAGINE MY DISAPPOINTMENT. SO SAD!!
You know what's interesting the two people who have sent me money or trucks are HTS and Actro, two users generally notorious for not having very much money. INTERESTING! -
2017-06-06 at 1:02 AM UTC in Drunken Debauchery and Summer Misery
LOOK WHAT I DID. ALL OF THIS IS MY HANDIWORK. DONATE PLEASE I HAVE KIDS TO FEED.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2017-06-05 at 10:53 PM UTC in Drunken Debauchery and Summer MiseryYour mother made a fortune with the same business model and all she needed was a street corner.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-06-05 at 7:41 PM UTC in Drunken Debauchery and Summer MiseryThis is pretty pathetic.
Weren't you planning on committing suicide? Why don't you get a job?The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2017-05-09 at 2:17 AM UTC in How many people really care about you?Too many people man. I don’t know half of them half as well as I should like and I like less than half of them half as well as they deserve.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-05-06 at 3:29 PM UTC in crateing a new form of music
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2017-05-04 at 10:06 PM UTC in Just got out of the ERThanks for sharing Zanick. On Zoklet I always had the image of you as well off guy, if somewhat elitist, who was on a track to a good life in the medical field. I'm not sure if I missed some of your posts while I was there because I mostly posted in The Retarded Thread, a fair amount of people spent most of their time there, but after reading this and some other posts you've made it's obvious you've suffered immensely.
You should look into Nardil, it's the #1 medication I want to get back on. Fucking last bitch took me off such a powerful drug cold turkey. The long half life rapidly diminishes in a few days, she called it a "tapering effect". I swear, unless I can intimidate and dominate them or seduce/charm/manipulate them I'd prefer to never meet with another female psychiatrist again. Had brain zaps and it was after that that I began developing agoraphobia and anthropophobia to such an extreme extent.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
