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2017-11-17 at 2:17 AM UTC in People Don't Like Me
Originally posted by SBTlauien I had no relationship with either of my parents. My mom use to admit that she wanted to abort me and that she had an abortion no long before I was born. I can't think of a single time, that I had a real one-on-one conversation with either of my parents, about anything important. Even as a little kid, they never taught me anything, never gave me advice, nothing. I remember that if I went to my mom for help, she'd always say things like "life's a bitch and then you die" or "figure it out on your own". My dad would always roll his eyes and let it be known that he didn't want to help me.
As an adult I have no romantic relationships(except strippers), no relationships at all aside from co-workers that don't like me.
So this attachment theory isn't going to apply to me.
you sound like a classic group A anxious-avoidant attachment.Anxious-avoidant attachment[edit]
An infant with an anxious-avoidant pattern of attachment will avoid or ignore the caregiver—showing little emotion when the caregiver departs or returns. The infant will not explore very much regardless of who is there. Infants classified as anxious-avoidant (A) represented a puzzle in the early 1970s. They did not exhibit distress on separation, and either ignored the caregiver on their return (A1 subtype) or showed some tendency to approach together with some tendency to ignore or turn away from the caregiver (A2 subtype). Ainsworth and Bell theorized that the apparently unruffled behaviour of the avoidant infants was in fact a mask for distress, a hypothesis later evidenced through studies of the heart-rate of avoidant infants.[46][47]
Infants are depicted as anxious-avoidant when there is:
"… conspicuous avoidance of the mother in the reunion episodes which is likely to consist of ignoring her altogether, although there may be some pointed looking away, turning away, or moving away … If there is a greeting when the mother enters, it tends to be a mere look or a smile … Either the baby does not approach his mother upon reunion, or they approach in 'abortive' fashions with the baby going past the mother, or it tends to only occur after much coaxing … If picked up, the baby shows little or no contact-maintaining behavior; he tends not to cuddle in; he looks away and he may squirm to get down."[30]
Ainsworth's narrative records showed that infants avoided the caregiver in the stressful Strange Situation Procedure when they had a history of experiencing rebuff of attachment behaviour. The infant's needs were frequently not met and the infant had come to believe that communication of emotional needs had no influence on the caregiver. Ainsworth's student Mary Main theorized that avoidant behaviour in the Strange Situational Procedure should be regarded as "a conditional strategy, which paradoxically permits whatever proximity is possible under conditions of maternal rejection" by de-emphasising attachment needs.[48] Main proposed that avoidance has two functions for an infant whose caregiver is consistently unresponsive to their needs. Firstly, avoidant behaviour allows the infant to maintain a conditional proximity with the caregiver: close enough to maintain protection, but distant enough to avoid rebuff. Secondly, the cognitive processes organising avoidant behaviour could help direct attention away from the unfulfilled desire for closeness with the caregiver—avoiding a situation in which the child is overwhelmed with emotion ('disorganized distress'), and therefore unable to maintain control of themselves and achieve even conditional proximity.[49]
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2017-11-17 at 2:09 AM UTC in I'm always sad
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2017-11-17 at 2:07 AM UTC in best cerealfrosted shreddies tho
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2017-11-17 at 2:05 AM UTC in Anyone here wanna peep my quads?i was gonna post a serious reply to this fred, then i saw it turn into the usual Bill Krozby-finny fagfest.
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2017-11-17 at 2:02 AM UTC in I'm always sadyou are a visionary Bill Krozby
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2017-11-17 at 2:01 AM UTC in the devil called me a fuckboyit didn't happen tho
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2017-11-17 at 2 AM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Get Rekt, Faggot!
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2017-11-17 at 1:59 AM UTC in I'm always sadwhy did i click this fred? i don't even care
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2017-11-17 at 1:57 AM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Get Rekt, Faggot!that's non-negotiable btw
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2017-11-17 at 1:57 AM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Get Rekt, Faggot!
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2017-11-17 at 1:50 AM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Get Rekt, Faggot!
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2017-11-17 at 1:25 AM UTC in No, I'm serious, how do I meet more women.
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2017-11-17 at 1:24 AM UTC in People Don't Like Me
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2017-11-16 at 5:42 PM UTC in 4chanthe same happened with acid house. in the late 80s it was underground with only the really cool people going. by the early 90s all the idiots cottoned on to it and the parties were suddenly swamped with muppets waving white gloves around, blowing whistles and coming up all monged out their faces and trying to rub vics on you and shit.
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2017-11-16 at 5:34 PM UTC in Say you got cheated on...
Originally posted by Totse 2001 Apparently our little buddy Malice is?
What happen to Malice. He suddenly syncs in and doesn't speak afterwards.
I think you're funny at times but clearly you have a serious mental conflict of what's right for your safety and health over your urge to have sex so badly.
Do you have a sex addiction? or are you like 70 and figure "Fuck AIDS and HIVB-C they have treatment now and I'm in the shitty years"
I could understand the last part. Grandpa might as well go hog wild on his life savings and make it rain on slutty bitches?
or not!
stick weiner in minge
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2017-11-16 at 5:30 PM UTC in No, I'm serious, how do I meet more women.
Originally posted by Captain Falcon Takes one to know one
i think you know full well that's not correct. that would imply the human mind is incapable of understanding the behavior of others.
it is hilarious that you still think i'm that insecure with my sexuality that i would get all mad and butthurt at the suggestion i was a faggot tho, lol.
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2017-11-16 at 5:23 PM UTC in Apparently we were kings and shit
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2017-11-16 at 11:38 AM UTC in I'm over this timelineyeah, you should kill yourself.
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2017-11-16 at 10:32 AM UTC in The Retarded Thread: Get Rekt, Faggot!i'm ok, getting by. could be better tho, but hey, what can you do? lol
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2017-11-16 at 10:26 AM UTC in I'm joining the marinesdon't ask, don't tell
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