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2019-11-26 at 4 PM UTC
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2019-11-26 at 4:03 PM UTCThat's just being passive aggressive though
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2019-11-26 at 4:05 PM UTC
Originally posted by MexicanMasterRace You only say this because you are an absentee father.
Thanks for reminding me about that. I kinda forgot. Now I can make fun of you again.
I'm really not. I convinced my bm friend to talk to her for me and now were talking again since she unblocked my number.
You're going to be childless your whole life as no one will ever seek to breed with mexican Keenan cahill -
2019-11-26 at 4:13 PM UTCMy family's all very straight edge including me for the most part besides being erratic, and I think it works a lot better that way as long as you guys can communicate with each other directly and be straight up with each other. Not fighting with your family is not overrated.
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2019-11-26 at 4:35 PM UTC
Originally posted by Sudo I'm really not. I convinced my bm friend to talk to her for me and now were talking again since she unblocked my number.
You're going to be childless your whole life as no one will ever seek to breed with mexican Keenan cahill
I've been breeding with no strings attached for over a year
You convincing someone to right the type of wrong YOU did doesn't say shit except you're guilty -
2019-11-26 at 4:36 PM UTC
Originally posted by DietPiano My family's all very straight edge including me for the most part besides being erratic, and I think it works a lot better that way as long as you guys can communicate with each other directly and be straight up with each other. Not fighting with your family is not overrated.
Lmao you're not straight edge. Ur a junkieThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2019-11-26 at 4:38 PM UTC
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2019-11-26 at 4:42 PM UTCGay
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2019-11-26 at 4:53 PM UTC
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2019-11-26 at 6:31 PM UTC
Originally posted by Sudo You should seek out your father poc. I bet theres a ton of mutual ground you can tread on together. From what I remember you had a ton in common and were basically reacting to each others presence in the same way. My gf is going through a similar thing with her mother who's likely a much worse person than your dad and it can definitely be painful but you have to keep the dialogue open
My father is extremely, extremely religious. All he talks about or posts on FB about is thanking God for everything from the sunrise to his morning coffee to the shit he takes afterwards. He's also very heavy into AA meetings and it seems the only way he wanted to relate to me was through discussing either AA literature or religion which don't vibe with me at all.
I mean, I respect his choices in those matters but I kind of thought he would express a bit more interest/compassion for me considering he doesn't know me at all after 32 years and I'm the one who established contact and extended the olive branch of forgiveness but I haven't heard from him at all since the day we met. Sure I can understand it he's nervous or apprehensive because I was too but I'm not going to make the effort for someone who has no interest in me beyond cramming their beliefs down my throat. My brother hasnt contacted me since the day I told him I was in a rut and he offered to meet up and discuss the AA steps and I said "it's not a sobriety issue dude it's psychiatric imbalance" and he never even replied to that let alone attempt contact again. -
2019-11-26 at 6:40 PM UTC
Back on my bullshit -
2019-11-26 at 6:41 PM UTCThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2019-11-26 at 6:48 PM UTC
Originally posted by Solstice My father is extremely, extremely religious. All he talks about or posts on FB about is thanking God for everything from the sunrise to his morning coffee to the shit he takes afterwards. He's also very heavy into AA meetings and it seems the only way he wanted to relate to me was through discussing either AA literature or religion which don't vibe with me at all.
I mean, I respect his choices in those matters but I kind of thought he would express a bit more interest/compassion for me considering he doesn't know me at all after 32 years and I'm the one who established contact and extended the olive branch of forgiveness but I haven't heard from him at all since the day we met. Sure I can understand it he's nervous or apprehensive because I was too but I'm not going to make the effort for someone who has no interest in me beyond cramming their beliefs down my throat. My brother hasnt contacted me since the day I told him I was in a rut and he offered to meet up and discuss the AA steps and I said "it's not a sobriety issue dude it's psychiatric imbalance" and he never even replied to that let alone attempt contact again.
People like that are just fucking weird. When I hitchhiked here I got picked up by this preacher dude who was going to Israel to build factories because of a dream God gave him???
Don't know how he was going to do that because he seemed poor as shit and his wiper stick was held together by hanger wire.
But I spent a good 16 hours with that guy and holy shit is it an effort to hold a conversation when all someone wants to talk about is God.
Years ago when I was on benzos some religious folks approached me while ringing doorbells and I said, "Sorry, I don't believe in that bullshit" and walked off. I feel bad about it, but also liek, don't go door to door spreading your religion, fuck. I don't mind religious people as long as they actually follow what they claim to follow and DON'T go harassing others about it. I've had this Christian penpal for like 4 or 5 years now and we get along fine. -
2019-11-26 at 6:49 PM UTC
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2019-11-26 at 6:54 PM UTC
Originally posted by Solstice My father is extremely, extremely religious. All he talks about or posts on FB about is thanking God for everything from the sunrise to his morning coffee to the shit he takes afterwards. He's also very heavy into AA meetings and it seems the only way he wanted to relate to me was through discussing either AA literature or religion which don't vibe with me at all.
I mean, I respect his choices in those matters but I kind of thought he would express a bit more interest/compassion for me considering he doesn't know me at all after 32 years and I'm the one who established contact and extended the olive branch of forgiveness but I haven't heard from him at all since the day we met. Sure I can understand it he's nervous or apprehensive because I was too but I'm not going to make the effort for someone who has no interest in me beyond cramming their beliefs down my throat. My brother hasnt contacted me since the day I told him I was in a rut and he offered to meet up and discuss the AA steps and I said "it's not a sobriety issue dude it's psychiatric imbalance" and he never even replied to that let alone attempt contact again.
It seems like the religious stuff is onset by AA/his recovery from alcoholism. My father was also an alcoholic for many years but he had been in my life during this time and I fostered many resentments towards him that didn't subside when he got sober. (He didn't get sober through AA though, actually therapy, music, lifestyle and depression medication) It sounds like your father is grateful to God for his sobriety and is getting a new perspective on life. It's hard to live a transformative life if you're shutting a seed you don't even know out. I'm pretty well versed in AA/NA literature so I'm sure he'd view being in your life as one of the ""gifts of recovery" but since recovery types are self centered people he's likely told someone in the program about you, who in turn told him to tread very carefully, especially since you also have substance abuse issues.
I'm sure like many absentee fathers he's lived very selfishly and immaturely for a long time and is just realizing the err of his ways now. Hate to say it but he's probably not "strong" enough to take on the emotional burden of having you in his life in a big way right now. Maybe you have to be the bigger person and just occasionally message him "hey hope you're having a good day" or "I played catch with a tree stump today, sure wish there was someone else there" just so he knows you're still there. He knew you were there for a long time (most likely) and did a good job of keeping you out of his mind. If you let him know he can't do that anymore he'll have to "man up" and deal with it. Having a brother (as well as a mutual friend IIRC) makes things easier. I just suggest you keep the dialogue open, let him know you'll reciprocate and eventually things will become clearer
But I don't really know either of you, that just seems most likely to me -
2019-11-26 at 6:57 PM UTC
Originally posted by Sudo It seems like the religious stuff is onset by AA/his recovery from alcoholism. My father was also an alcoholic for many years but he had been in my life during this time and I fostered many resentments towards him that didn't subside when he got sober. (He didn't get sober through AA though, actually therapy, music, lifestyle and depression medication) It sounds like your father is grateful to God for his sobriety and is getting a new perspective on life. It's hard to live a transformative life if you're shutting a seed you don't even know out. I'm pretty well versed in AA/NA literature so I'm sure he'd view being in your life as one of the ""gifts of recovery" but since recovery types are self centered people he's likely told someone in the program about you, who in turn told him to tread very carefully, especially since you also have substance abuse issues.
I'm sure like many absentee fathers he's lived very selfishly and immaturely for a long time and is just realizing the err of his ways now. Hate to say it but he's probably not "strong" enough to take on the emotional burden of having you in his life in a big way right now. Maybe you have to be the bigger person and just occasionally message him "hey hope you're having a good day" or "I played catch with a tree stump today, sure wish there was someone else there" just so he knows you're still there. He knew you were there for a long time (most likely) and did a good job of keeping you out of his mind. If you let him know he can't do that anymore he'll have to "man up" and deal with it. Having a brother (as well as a mutual friend IIRC) makes things easier. I just suggest you keep the dialogue open, let him know you'll reciprocate and eventually things will become clearer
But I don't really know either of you, that just seems most likely to me
How is he going to be any different from a stranger though? Simply having a blood connection really doesn't mean shit. What is the point in connecting?The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2019-11-26 at 7:05 PM UTC
Originally posted by MexicanMasterRace How is he going to be any different from a stranger though? Simply having a blood connection really doesn't mean shit. What is the point in connecting?
Knowledge of self, support, insight, chance to bond etc. etc. etc. Even a chance to air resentments is good. Even if he meets up with his dad just to punch him in the face and say "I hate you you piece of shit" any psychologist (or really anyone with a father) would tell you this would be a good cathartic activity
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2019-11-26 at 7:12 PM UTCWell, he has a relationship with his mother I imagine, so that's one pretty big mutual relationship to bond over. I think anyway, but it could be different I guess
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2019-11-26 at 7:26 PM UTC
Originally posted by Sudo Knowledge of self, support, insight, chance to bond etc. etc. etc. Even a chance to air resentments is good. Even if he meets up with his dad just to punch him in the face and say "I hate you you piece of shit" any psychologist (or really anyone with a father) would tell you this would be a good cathartic activity
Are you really asking "what's the benefit of having family?"
I completely agree with what you have said here and I am sorry for the intrusion have a nice day -
2019-11-26 at 7:49 PM UTCThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
