Originally posted by aldra
an underlying reason for social upheaval in the west (especially over the last decade) is an explosion in the inability for people to accept that some things are simply out of their control
Specifically what do you mean by "social upheaval" here?
more specifically, that they're unable to reconcile their internal view of themselves with how they are perceived externally - so they attempt to enforce their internal view on the world.
I'm not sure I follow: you attempt to enforce your internal view on somebody else's subjective perception every time you try to convince them of something. There's no "reconciliation" being attempted in the first place.
In fact you impose your internal view upon "the world" every time you do anything. For example you internally view yourself as eating some fried chicken so you impose it upon the universe by doing it and bringing it out of your head. It's not going to enforce itself after all, you have to see something in the world isn't the way you wish to see it, then try to change it.
it's similar to cognitive dissonance in that they become frustrated because they cannot reconcile the internal and external interpretations
but in this case it's not because one of the conflicting ideas can't be discarded, it's because they cannot or will not relinquish control over how they are perceived by others.
That IS one of the conflicting ideas not able to be discarded. You're describing the same thing. You just think they should discard one of them, which they cannot, so it is kinda missing the point entirely.
they now commonly refer to others' perception of them not matching their own as a form of 'violence' with claims such as 'misgendering' or 'deadnaming' as a common example.
Do you really think they care about your perception or the fact that you are calling them something they just really hate being called?
If you call a gay guy a faggot out in public, they'll consider that a kind of violence not because they want you to not consider them as being literal tinder (although that's true I'm sure) but because you're being an aggressively rude asshole.
'transgenders' and people inventing or invoking foreign 'gender identities' are probably the simplest example - people demanding to be perceived in a way contrary to how they appear - but they're only among the more extreme examples, far from the only ones.
Let's say they get really good trans surgery. Like imagine an FtM transgender goes through their transition and in the end looks like this guy:
Would you be willing to say "he/him/his" for them? Or refer to them by their male name?
The following users say it would be alright if the author of this
post didn't die in a fire!
