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Should we embrace our grief?
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2018-10-24 at 2:40 PM UTCThat was one of the most pathetic posts i have ever read
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2018-10-24 at 2:45 PM UTCTripe G is getting angry don't ruffle him I can see it in his feather
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2018-10-24 at 4:25 PM UTCThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2018-10-25 at 10:08 AM UTC
Originally posted by MORALLY SUPERIOR BEING 2.0 - The GMO Reckoning If that's true it gives a great reason to stay alive as long as possible - life on earth sucks, but at least you don't have to deal with Pakis.
Um, there's a whole country full of pakis right here on earth. It's called Pakistan. Perhaps you've heard it mentioned. -
2018-10-25 at 10:09 AM UTCThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2018-10-25 at 11:12 AM UTC
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2018-10-27 at 5:59 AM UTCI tried embracing my grief but then it started touching me inappropriately and I told it to stop and left promptly.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2018-10-27 at 12:22 PM UTC
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2018-11-05 at 9:53 AM UTCI hope the cat fucker is actually still alive. I don't want him to die before that retard nigger Tacho.
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2018-11-12 at 4:22 AM UTC
Originally posted by ohfralala All I know is the more you force yourself to accept something and try to move on, the more grief seems to try and track your ass down.
Bingo.
Originally posted by vindicktive vinny real men dont grive. they simply take a deep breath, sigh, and move on.
Yeah, basically.
Taking inventory of what happened and how it affects you is important. Considering the consequences of the person's life and death is important. Accounting for the moments you remember of them, cherished ones, disappointing ones, early ones, crappy ones, awesome ones, breathtaking ones, silly ones, sketchy ones, remembering all of the moments you remember of the person can be a fulfilling experience.
Feeling regretful, sad, or angry for any extended period of time is unnecessary and unhelpful. True acceptance is helpful. Forced acceptance stacks bricks on your head. If my mom died today, there's nothing I can do to change that, and feeling sad about what happened is pointless and doesn't help me accomplish my goals, because my goals don't include feeling deep sadness. I've felt deep sadness, and it I don't care for it.
Grieving is optional. When you're hit with hard news, you can choose to feel like shit, or you can take a deep breath and move on. -
2018-11-12 at 4:24 AM UTC
Originally posted by MORALLY SUPERIOR BEING 2.0 - The GMO Reckoning If anyone doesn't deal with death, or each other, well it's WASPs, or anyone from inside the Hajnal line. They are cold and don't seem to like each other much.
Muds are very humanistic people. No mud would do something like charge their kid rent, or praise Mexicans after a Mexican killed their own kid, like Mollie Tibbet's father did. They are loyal to their ingroup and very traditional.
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2018-11-12 at 4:26 AM UTC
Originally posted by DietPiano Bingo.
Yeah, basically.
Taking inventory of what happened and how it affects you is important. Considering the consequences of the person's life and death is important. Accounting for the moments you remember of them, cherished ones, disappointing ones, early ones, crappy ones, awesome ones, breathtaking ones, silly ones, sketchy ones, remembering all of the moments you remember of the person can be a fulfilling experience.
Feeling regretful, sad, or angry for any extended period of time is unnecessary and unhelpful. True acceptance is helpful. Forced acceptance stacks bricks on your head. If my mom died today, there's nothing I can do to change that, and feeling sad about what happened is pointless and doesn't help me accomplish my goals, because my goals don't include feeling deep sadness. I've felt deep sadness, and it I don't care for it.
Grieving is optional. When you're hit with hard news, you can choose to feel like shit, or you can take a deep breath and move on.
Or you can do both like most healthy people who don't wall off part of their emotions when mom dies. Part of acceptance is accepting the grief. Moving on without grief is not accepting what happened, because if you truly cared for the person you will never stop grieving and you will never forget them. -
2018-11-12 at 4:54 AM UTC
Originally posted by GGG Or you can do both like most healthy people who don't wall off part of their emotions when mom dies. Part of acceptance is accepting the grief. Moving on without grief is not accepting what happened, because if you truly cared for the person you will never stop grieving and you will never forget them.
What is grief? Why do I have to feel it?
I recognize why I *COULD* feel grief, but I don't because it's pointless and I don't want to.
I care about who the person was, but they're gone. To continue to care for them after they are gone in the same manner that one cared for them when they are alive does necessarily bring depression.
ex:
Cookie time! Robyn, come bake some cookies with Momma. You can go stir the dough just li...ju..s.just like *snif* like MATTHEW used to!!! Ohhh *cry* *snaffle* *snif* *sNUff* *sNorf* *SNOOf* Ohe if only MATTHEW were here to stir dough, he stirred it soo wheehllll! aauauahefuAorufafaAarhg
How is that helpful?
Red pen:
Let's make cookies Robyn! You can stir the dough for me, just like your brother Matthew used to. He and I would make cookies by the bushel for those bake sale ladies down on Elm. We had fun, your brother and I.
See how choosing not to indulge sadness prevented mental breakdown, and how accepting that a loved one is no longer here leads to a positive experience?
I'm not suppressing my feelings of sadness. I'm recognizing what they are, and I choose not to indulge them. Doing this has lead me to peace. -
2018-11-12 at 5:38 AM UTCGrief is deep sadness. Feeling grief is human. What you are describing is inhuman. You can't just choose which emotions to feel, that isn't what 'being in control of your emotions' means. It means controlling your actions. You don't have to be that wailing makeup streaked woman in black.
Grief can be inside. Like maybe you will see a dog toy at the store that's the EXACT toy your dog used to have. You don't cry obviously, but you do think stuff like "Holy fuck I miss my dog. I really really fucking miss him, he was such a good dog." You know that heart dropping feeling yeah?
I think people just attribute it to that extreme sadness because that's one of the few times its used, but any strong sadness experienced over death is grief. There is literally no way to avoid experiencing it if you loved a person. You can't have sadness pop up in your head and choose not to experience it. Indulge, yes, but that is a lack of control and a lack of getting over it. Grief can be brief and fleeting. I think maybe more so than other forms of sadness. -
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