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Treating my sister like the animal she is
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2018-03-12 at 7:08 PM UTC
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2018-03-12 at 7:19 PM UTCHow about concern trolling? It seems like it'd suit Zanick's personality better than §m£ÂgØL's style of abuse. The idea is to act like you just want to help. Pick things women get insecure about.
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I want to help you to find a decent man to settle down with, you won't have your looks for long.
Have you changed your mind about having children? You're already 25/30/whatever.
Have you thought about using something to deal with those wrinkles?
Your hands are shaking, you should get that checked out, it might be parkinson's.
Your hair is getting a little light, you should switch to a milder shampoo.
Your hairline looks to be receding a little sis, you should keep an eye on that.
You remind me so much of mom, you're going to be just like her when you get old.
Do you feel tired? You know low energy can be a symptom of diabetes/cancer/pregnancy.
You should keep an eye on this mole on your neck, it might be skin cancer. -
2018-03-12 at 7:29 PM UTCI definitely can't hurt her or detain her, and I'm not going to rape her or have Bill Krozby rape her either.
Originally posted by RisiR † Give her some.
Give her some good. All that built up trauma must have created an animal inside you. You are smart, Zanick. You know how to tame the animal to the point it won't go loose. Control it. Use it to destroy your faggot sister.
Rip her a new one.
20 years ago, that anger would have been useful to me. But now my coping skills are different. She's an animal who can't control her rage, and that's what differentiates us. That kind of reaction is best avoided if I'm to remain in control of this situation.
Originally posted by NARCassist you need to turn any situation that you can to embarrass her or make her look bad or stupid in some way. be quick to point out all her failings and magnify them, bring them up at any opportunity, don't let her or anyone else forget them. set her up to embarrass herself if possible or just exaggerate shit to the max.
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That's one approach I've considered in the past. I'm not sure how well it'd work because it sounds a bit riskier to attempt. I did correct her grammar once in public: she looked at me as if she was going to rip out my large intestine and strangle me with it. She's pretty smart, so I don't know if I'll be able to catch her slipping up when I need to. To make matters more difficult, there won't be many other people around besides us, so I don't know that attacking her social value would be entirely productive for my defense. I'm not looking to put her down and make myself look better by comparison, I just want peace and stability and I don't think I'll get it by playing her game.
Originally posted by §m£ÂgØL2becausescronfuckeduptheforum One great thing ive found is LAUGHING.
"You stupid piece of shit, mom likes her eggs over easy. You've always been a fucking dumbass."
*single chortle, small shake of the head maybe, walk away*
She'll bring it up. But don't address it. Just change topics. Or give her directions/something to do. If she won't do it, YOU do it, and don't say anything. It's simply a thing that needed to be done. Show her you are the more useful one.
This type of shit drives narcissists absolutely fucking wild. It denies them the attention, acknowledgement, and satisfaction they crave. You want her to know she's a joke, but you want her to come to the conclusion on your own.
I usually do this to unruly people at my work, without the chuckle or head shaking. And I'll never do something for them, if they don't listen the first time I just tell them "cmon man, don't be lazy, do x" because I'm not trying to make them feel bad.
But your sister deserves to feel bad, which is why i have given you the upgraded method.
Laughing at her behaviors can work when I don't really have to be around her for long, but while they deflect her insults temporarily, she will always pick up where she left off before long. She's a predator, and she thinks I'm her prey. She'll be here for a week or more, this time. Caring for our mother will require close communication, so I'll need a stronger response if I'm going to stay relatively sane.
Originally posted by greenplastic For realz though can we get some pics? Is she hot?
No, and no. She feels entitled to whatever she wants, so she's never been able to refuse herself a piece of food. She would be quite pretty, had this behavior not taken root in her childhood. -
2018-03-12 at 7:36 PM UTC
Originally posted by lempoid loompus its a woman
a WOMAN
do you know how strong a woman is?
and zanick needs help. this is why being an agreeable person is a bad thing, a 6 year old could step all over you if he was just a little bit domineering, and if he's a guy he'd be about as strong as your sister.
I really don't need my sister filing charges against me. She's vindictive and cruel, and I don't need that following me around. Even if I did want to hurt her, I wouldn't.
Originally posted by Issue313 How about concern trolling? It seems like it'd suit Zanick's personality better than §m£ÂgØL's style of abuse. The idea is to act like you just want to help. Pick things women get insecure about.
ie.
I want to help you to find a decent man to settle down with, you won't have your looks for long.
Have you changed your mind about having children? You're already 25/30/whatever.
Have you thought about using something to deal with those wrinkles?
Your hands are shaking, you should get that checked out, it might be parkinson's.
Your hair is getting a little light, you should switch to a milder shampoo.
Your hairline looks to be receding a little sis, you should keep an eye on that.
You remind me so much of mom, you're going to be just like her when you get old.
Do you feel tired? You know low energy can be a symptom of diabetes/cancer/pregnancy.
You should keep an eye on this mole on your neck, it might be skin cancer.
Yeah, I've tried that before. I used to look for physical imperfections that used to be associated with vampire superstitions a long time ago, and then I suggest that she see a doctor for them. She couldn't stand it, but it got old fast and I can't do it around family, which is the whole point - they don't understand our relationship, so they don't understand that I'm only being proactive. Plus, it just didn't feel right. I wasn't accomplishing anything except keeping her at bay, and I'm really not a mean guy so I stopped. I need to look evil in the eye soon, and I can't do it with old jokes. -
2018-03-12 at 8:30 PM UTCI think you should still take my advice of doing everything yourself so that she becomes useless. Don't ask her for anything. Act as if you are the only one present.
And if you want, I'll come over and praise you a fuck ton in front of her. We could actually do this Zanick. Imagine how she'd feel when I come over SO happy to see you and thank you for helping put me through school and giving me that advice that turned my life around. We can collaborate on stories i can tell her beforehand.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2018-03-12 at 8:36 PM UTCsounds like the best thing is to just never let her see that she's getting to you. and do things deliberately to wind her up then just be like 'whatever' when she goes on about it. people like that are trying to piss you off, just be super-positive and smiley all the time. and if there are people around do things that you know irritate her and cause her to totally lose her cool in front of them while you remain totally in control and calm the whole time.
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2018-03-12 at 8:57 PM UTC
Originally posted by §m£ÂgØL2becausescronfuckeduptheforum I think you should still take my advice of doing everything yourself so that she becomes useless. Don't ask her for anything. Act as if you are the only one present.
And if you want, I'll come over and praise you a fuck ton in front of her. We could actually do this Zanick. Imagine how she'd feel when I come over SO happy to see you and thank you for helping put me through school and giving me that advice that turned my life around. We can collaborate on stories i can tell her beforehand.
I appreciate the thought, but my sister worked throughout my teenage years to convince my parents that I'm friends with criminals. She would categorically ignore your input. Besides, it's ultimately more of a family matter: I'm thinking about the future. I need to develop skills to handle her on my own because if she ever abuses her own children, I think I'd be the only one to would recognize it and try to stop her.
Doing everything myself, however... that sounds very doable. I excel at taking care of people, and my sister, as much as she'd like to be capable of this, is not built for it. She's taking time off work so that she can come to make me feel inadequate, but maybe I can push that right back onto her.
Originally posted by NARCassist sounds like the best thing is to just never let her see that she's getting to you. and do things deliberately to wind her up then just be like 'whatever' when she goes on about it. people like that are trying to piss you off, just be super-positive and smiley all the time. and if there are people around do things that you know irritate her and cause her to totally lose her cool in front of them while you remain totally in control and calm the whole time.
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You're right on the first point - she'd take any sign of weakness as a green light to proceed with worse manipulation. Smiling and positivity do annoy her, especially when she's trying to sink her claws in, so that might be my best defense and, coupled with §m£ÂgØL's idea of micromanaging the whole operation, might be infuriating enough to send her home. -
2018-03-12 at 9 PM UTCTo those of you perplexed by the degree of planning that goes into a short visit from my sister: be glad that you don't need to. And if it sounds like somebody that you know, see a therapist. Cluster B's - that is, narcissists, histrionics and borderlines - are like venomous cockroaches that move in under the refrigerators in your life, spitting up at you each time you pour a cup of water.
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2018-03-12 at 9:13 PM UTCI can't give you any real advice. I think you know in your heart how to handle the situation. Be true to yourself and don't let her walk over you. Stand up for yourself. Don't play games just be real. Remember that you're there for your mom first.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2018-03-12 at 9:17 PM UTC
Originally posted by Open Your Mind I can't give you any real advice. I think you know in your heart how to handle the situation. Be true to yourself and don't let her walk over you. Stand up for yourself. Don't play games just be real. Remember that you're there for your mom first.
You're 100% right on the last point. Of everything I need to keep track of next week, my mother is the first priority. I can't let this sibling conflict touch her. My sister is very forceful, but I don't think I've ever been more ready. This might be the first time in my life that I handle her for more than a day successfully, and I want her to remember it. -
2018-03-12 at 9:23 PM UTCGet a handsome man-slave to assist you. Your sister will be so busy pandering and looking good for the man-slave, you won't be bothered at all.
You're welcome. -
2018-03-12 at 9:26 PM UTCAlternatively rape her in the ass. Juss sayin'.
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2018-03-12 at 9:27 PM UTC
Originally posted by -SpectraL Get a handsome man-slave to assist you. Your sister will be so busy pandering and looking good for the man-slave, you won't be bothered at all.
You're welcome.
She wouldn't like my man-slave because he'd be my property and not hers. She likes to deprive me of things. When we were children, she even tried to convince my parents not to feed me. Nobody could be less deserving of a slave than her little brother. Besides, she already has tricked a very passive man into marrying her, and he does whatever she says. That's all she's ever wanted in a partner. -
2018-03-12 at 9:28 PM UTCThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2018-03-12 at 9:31 PM UTC
Originally posted by Zanick My mother is having a procedure done. Like a good son, I'm going to all of her appointments with her and making sure that I know all the details for her aftercare. When she gets home, I'll be keeping an eye on her around the clock.
My sister, a clinical narcissist, is also coming home after this procedure. She's very stressed about the whole ordeal, and when she can't cope with a situation, she usually tries to execute a stupid power play over me. To this end, she's been texting me a lot, telling me that I don't know how to care for our mom, that I'm a failure, I'm going to screw this up, etc. Variations on the same insults she's been handing me since I was old enough to understand. So, I'm fairly certain that when she's actually under the same roof as me, she will be a lot worse.
Now, I know how to respond when my sister behaves this way. A lot of therapy has prepared me so that she won't get under my skin, or take advantage of me like she used to. I haven't had to put up with her for a whole week in years, but I'm not worried about how I'll react to her usual bullying. What I want to do, rather, is turn the tables. I'll be letting her know that I'm in charge, and she's only here to help me look after our mom. This has never worked before, as my sister is a very unreasonable person. I'm not entirely sure how to go about making her understand that this is not going to go her way.
For obvious reasons, I won't be bothering our mother with this conflict. I want to make my life a little easier and still care for my mom the way she deserves. Niggas, what are some subtle ways you've thwarted the domineering people in your lives?
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2018-03-12 at 9:33 PM UTC
Originally posted by Zanick She wouldn't like my man-slave because he'd be my property and not hers. She likes to deprive me of things. When we were children, she even tried to convince my parents not to feed me. Nobody could be less deserving of a slave than her little brother. Besides, she already has tricked a very passive man into marrying her, and he does whatever she says. That's all she's ever wanted in a partner.
thats the best kind of woman. wholly unprepared when an alfa-male shows her how to be a good woman.
in all actuality shes probably this way because an alfa had his way with her then when he was finished tossed her to the curb. if thats any consolation. -
2018-03-12 at 9:38 PM UTC
Originally posted by infinityshock thats the best kind of woman. wholly unprepared when an alfa-male shows her how to be a good woman.
in all actuality shes probably this way because an alfa had his way with her then when he was finished tossed her to the curb. if thats any consolation.
That's not the kind of woman she is at all. I don't think any women are, anywhere, and especially not the ones you've encountered. She is the way she is for many reasons, all of them dating back a long, long time ago, and none of them is even remotely close to what you've suggested here. -
2018-03-12 at 9:42 PM UTCPics of your sister
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2018-03-12 at 9:47 PM UTC
Originally posted by Zanick My mother is having a procedure done. Like a good son, I'm going to all of her appointments with her and making sure that I know all the details for her aftercare. When she gets home, I'll be keeping an eye on her around the clock.
My sister, a clinical narcissist, is also coming home after this procedure. She's very stressed about the whole ordeal, and when she can't cope with a situation, she usually tries to execute a stupid power play over me. To this end, she's been texting me a lot, telling me that I don't know how to care for our mom, that I'm a failure, I'm going to screw this up, etc. Variations on the same insults she's been handing me since I was old enough to understand. So, I'm fairly certain that when she's actually under the same roof as me, she will be a lot worse.
Now, I know how to respond when my sister behaves this way. A lot of therapy has prepared me so that she won't get under my skin, or take advantage of me like she used to. I haven't had to put up with her for a whole week in years, but I'm not worried about how I'll react to her usual bullying. What I want to do, rather, is turn the tables. I'll be letting her know that I'm in charge, and she's only here to help me look after our mom. This has never worked before, as my sister is a very unreasonable person. I'm not entirely sure how to go about making her understand that this is not going to go her way.
For obvious reasons, I won't be bothering our mother with this conflict. I want to make my life a little easier and still care for my mom the way she deserves. Niggas, what are some subtle ways you've thwarted the domineering people in your lives?
Tell us again where your sister touched you. -
2018-03-12 at 9:54 PM UTCNo, guys, I won't post pics of my sister. You wouldn't enjoy them, and you might misuse them, so I don't see a benefit to be obtained in doing it.
Speedy Ejaculator, you shouldn't be in the discussion forums.
