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2017-05-22 at 4:39 AM UTCI've been trying to improve myselfl recently, and i could be happier, I've spent way too much time wastng it. I turn 30 in a month and a part of it scares me, but i realize thats nothing to be afraid of. My friend shawn and and the girl I used to date that won cupcake wars (she was ten years older than me) ares both talented people and I look up to people like that.
My girlfriend is 22 and thats a lot younger than myself and when she leaves my place I act like I don't care, but she's a doll that I care about.
My neighbor and I have been jamming together recently and has been teaching me about music theory something I always neglected while playing guitar/bass, but even with as crazy as he is, i believe that the fundamentals of music theory are important (noth that i dont know some of it)
But tl/dr, I'd love to have another child eventually with a girl I'm in love with and have a fundamental foundation of love built on top of it.
I see significance in burying the dead, holding someone close, and not that I believe I deserve a return but I've always have have love hit me right in the face.
I see it every day. -
2017-05-22 at 4:43 AM UTC
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2017-05-22 at 4:46 AM UTC
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2017-05-22 at 4:49 AM UTC
Originally posted by infinityshock in all honesty…the chicks i know of that are doted upon the most are the least loyal, affectionate, and effective girlfriends. the chicks that are mentally and physically abused are them most loyal, affectionate, and effective.
I don't mean to empty out your purse and do everything for her, more along the lines of talking to her so that you both know what each other want out of a relationship... if she's one of those types it should be easier to figure it out before you waste too much time on her -
2017-05-22 at 4:59 AM UTCMy life is pretty great right now, which makes me suspicious of things to come.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-05-22 at 5 AM UTC
Originally posted by hydromorphone Just because you're issues or lack of enjoyment of life aren't as bad as others doesn't mean it's not valid or something you should feel bad about speaking the truth on. I hate when people do the "well, dude, you're life could be worse! Look at the shit *insert name or" I am" here* going through or have dealt with! It's far worse than your petty shit!" now, not to say there aren't just spoiled, shitty, dumbfuck assholes in this world who always have to be the victim and crave pity from others, but shit, besides that… People have problems and we shouldn't be judging who's shit is the worst. We should be able to openly discuss each other's problems, and work together to help one another out the best we can to handle them… Sometimes it's as simple as being an ear to hear someone vent their frustrations.
So, what's up, aldra?
I know, right? What people don't realize is that you're essentially being told two things.
1.) Things could be or get worse.
That doesn't make me happy. I really don't see how anyone could derive joy from this.
2.) There are people out there that are suffering more than you.
Once again, nothing about this makes me happy and it doesn't appear to be a psychologically healthy thing to derive contentment from.
I do believe it's part of human nature, sexual competition leading to competition for status, that leads to a natural inclination to compare your life to others and that does seem to lead to a strong effect on mental wellbeing/quality of life. But, let's assume there was an objective happiness/quality of life scale from -10 to 10. If you're at -5 and someone is at -10, them being at that level changes nothing about your own suffering. Most people don't understand what truly drives human beings, and life in general, at its core and what we derive lasting happiness from.
Originally posted by Discount Whore I am happy. I don't have to worry about money, or being homeless, or having a wife or kids that don't love me. Sometimes I get anxiety over keeping afloat but I've got a constant reminder that things are good. Mostly my unhappiness comes from work. I hate the people I work with, even though I find the work interesting. They all think I'm a straight edge stickler because I only talk about work, and I'm friendly enough to where they don't know I don't like any of them.
Hopefully when my wife finishes school I will be able to downgrade to a job I enjoy more. We need the income for now though. But I can deal with it. It's worth it.
What do you do for a living, what's your wife going to school for/career plans, and what would be your ideal job to downgrade to? Just taking an interest in your life. Happiness with life does not seem to be the standard here.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2017-05-22 at 5:12 AM UTC
Originally posted by Malice I know, right? What people don't realize is that you're essentially being told two things.
1.) Things could be or get worse.
That doesn't make me happy. I really don't see how anyone could derive joy from this.
2.) There are people out there that are suffering more than you.
Once again, nothing about this makes me happy and it doesn't appear to be a psychologically healthy thing to derive contentment from.
I do believe it's part of human nature, sexual competition leading to competition for status, that leads to a natural inclination to compare your life to others and that does seem to lead to a strong effect on mental wellbeing/quality of life. But, let's assume there was an objective happiness/quality of life scale from -10 to 10. If you're at -5 and someone is at -10, them being at that level changes nothing about your own suffering. Most people don't understand what truly drives human beings, and life in general, at its core and what we derive lasting happiness from.
What do you do for a living, what's your wife going to school for/career plans, and what would be your ideal job to downgrade to? Just taking an interest in your life. Happiness with life does not seem to be the standard here.
hey faggot are you ever going to come fight me? -
2017-05-22 at 5:28 AM UTC
Originally posted by aldra I don't mean to empty out your purse and do everything for her, more along the lines of talking to her so that you both know what each other want out of a relationship… if she's one of those types it should be easier to figure it out before you waste too much time on her
i know.
what im saying is its more the personality type than how theyre treated. the girls who 'want' (yes, want. fuck what the courts and womens lib feminazis say...these women WANT to be abused) to be mistreated have some underlying issues that cause them to be more loyal, dedicated, and devoted, to a man who mistreats them.
women who are 'normal' and are treated like society says women should be treated, are the ones that bitch the most, have no concept of loyalty or devotion, and generally suck as girlfriends. -
2017-05-22 at 5:29 AM UTC
Originally posted by Bill Krozby hey faggot are you ever going to come fight me?
ill fight you if you sign a notarized legal document saying you voluntarily donate the usage of your orifices to any use i deem fit once you lose.
edit: as a caveat, im about 30lbs heavier than the last pic i posted in RDFRN...and probably 40-ish heavier than the one I posted on totse. -
2017-05-22 at 5:40 AM UTCMalice, I have an NDA so I won't get too in depth but I basically check rats and frog vitals all day for signs of toxicity/mutations. I don't know what I want to do otherwise. I like the professional environment but everybody I work with is like a sheldon-jock
My wife is studying criminal justice. -
2017-05-22 at 5:44 AM UTC
Originally posted by Discount Whore Malice, I have an NDA so I won't get too in depth but I basically check rats and frog vitals all day for signs of toxicity/mutations. I don't know what I want to do otherwise. I like the professional environment but everybody I work with is like a sheldon-jock
My wife is studying criminal justice.
that...is fucking disgusting.
come to florida...i have something you can borrow. but you have to let us borrow your gf. and she'll even use a strap-on on both of you. -
2017-05-22 at 5:46 AM UTC
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2017-05-22 at 5:49 AM UTC
Originally posted by Discount Whore she says she'll fuck you for 100 BTC. You also have to wear a bag over your head.
ill wear two bags...and how much is 100btc? if its more than 15 cents...no. ill buy her a hamburger and soda...a small soda. my chick looks better than yours.
edit: according to google, 100 BTC Bitcoin = 212,927.50 USD
for that ill go to cambodia and buy an entire harem of virgins -
2017-05-22 at 5:51 AM UTCMaybe. It changes moment to moment. For the most part I am happy. Other times I'm not. I'm content. It's my biggest problem; being content. If you're okay with everything you don't really feel any kind of drive to do things. But being upset about a lack of motivation isn't productive, because it's not like there's some kind of struggle to achieve motivation. Either you're motivated to do something or you're not. It's entirely external. There needs to be a THING that motivates you. A thing you're motivated for. I have no such thing. Being motivated towards motivation is a non-starter.
Essentially I only need the first two tiers of Maslow's hierarchy of needs (physiological needs met, and safety) to reach the hierarchy's pinnacle: self-actualization. -
2017-05-22 at 5:51 AM UTC
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2017-05-22 at 5:52 AM UTC
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2017-05-22 at 5:54 AM UTC
Originally posted by Bill Krozby I've been trying to improve myselfl recently, and i could be happier, I've spent way too much time wastng it. I turn 30 in a month and a part of it scares me, but i realize thats nothing to be afraid of. My friend shawn and and the girl I used to date that won cupcake wars (she was ten years older than me) ares both talented people and I look up to people like that.
My girlfriend is 22 and thats a lot younger than myself and when she leaves my place I act like I don't care, but she's a doll that I care about.
My neighbor and I have been jamming together recently and has been teaching me about music theory something I always neglected while playing guitar/bass, but even with as crazy as he is, i believe that the fundamentals of music theory are important (noth that i dont know some of it)
But tl/dr, I'd love to have another child eventually with a girl I'm in love with and have a fundamental foundation of love built on top of it.
I see significance in burying the dead, holding someone close, and not that I believe I deserve a return but I've always have have love hit me right in the face.
I see it every day.
i have underwear and socks older than you. wait till your my age and see how you feel, you whiny little faggot nigger spawn -
2017-05-22 at 6:11 AM UTC
Originally posted by Malice What's gotten you out of the slump?
Having something challenging I really care about and working on it every day, being sufficiently absorbed in something that nothing else bothers me. I actually think it might be a minor manic state or something, last time was couple of years ago, I was working on a novel mesh construction algorithm. In retrospect it wasn't anything amazing but I didn't have much context, I spent every spare minute on it. It was like having a boundless well of energy, I was fully engaged with my work for hours and hours on end. When I had to stop it was still the only thing I thought about, I started seeing the things I was reading about and working on all around me out in the world. It was amazing, no amount of bullshit could get me down, I'd be standing in line just staring off into space thinking about it. At the time I remember thinking about some excerpt of Teresa of Avila I had read, about her ecstatic religious visions, like specifically the experience of painfully intense divine love. I mean I certainly don't attach any religious significance to my experience but on a purely subjective level I felt like I understood that piece of writing very well afterwards.
That was a particularly intense period, but in general having something challenging that holds my interest, a sense of purpose, is the only clear and consistent correlate with mood for me.
Originally posted by aldra I try to take some pride in being a decent person but the better I understand it, the more awful everything is - even the most 'honorable' institutions have base, feral behaviour and exploitation at their core… I'll drown in it eventually.
I feel like that a lot, but I think to a degree it's more a habit of mind than an accurate assessment. It's easy to be hypercritical, especially in systems where people only have formalized relationships where you interact with platonic roles rather than full human beings. I mean if you have an objection to foundational ideas of your society then literally everyone and everything you interact with is going to be malignant on grounds of being a part of it, your default assessment is going to be negative regardless of the individual merits of those people or institutions. -
2017-05-22 at 6:27 AM UTC
Originally posted by Phoenix Maybe. It changes moment to moment. For the most part I am happy. Other times I'm not. I'm content. It's my biggest problem; being content. If you're okay with everything you don't really feel any kind of drive to do things. But being upset about a lack of motivation isn't productive, because it's not like there's some kind of struggle to achieve motivation. Either you're motivated to do something or you're not. It's entirely external. There needs to be a THING that motivates you. A thing you're motivated for. I have no such thing. Being motivated towards motivation is a non-starter.
Essentially I only need the first two tiers of Maslow's hierarchy of needs (physiological needs met, and safety) to reach the hierarchy's pinnacle: self-actualization.
Then why have you attempted suicide multiple times and claimed or at least suggested you were severely depressed?
Honestly, I didn't even realize I was severely depressed until it felt too late and I had a mental breakdown.
Also, this is highly pertinent. Maslow be damned: http://theviewfromhell.blogspot.com/2011/05/maslow-be-damned-how-social-belonging.html
I accepted a while ago that social isolation, a lack of fulfillment, were the primary drivers behind my depression and even greatly contributed to anxiety and other problems. -
2017-05-22 at 6:32 AM UTC
