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Single moms are the bane of society (some peoples kids)
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2018-10-02 at 8:35 AM UTCwhy being a single mom rocks! HURRR!
1. I don't wake up filled with rage every morning.
When you're in a toxic relationship, the smallest thing can set you off. On a typical morning when I was married, I'd have run a loop in the park, made breakfast, packed my daughters' lunches, signed a permission slip, found a lost mitten, and broken up a sibling squabble before my husband sleepily shuffled into the kitchen.
He'd make a pot of coffee and stand there in his pajamas, waiting for it to brew. It drove me bananas. My girls got used to hearing mommy yell. As a single mom, I still have to do everything myself every morning, but at least I don't have to watch someone else sip his coffee and stare out the window while I'm doing it. And I'm no longer the mom who yells.
2. I get whole weekends off from being a mom.
Did I say I have to do everything myself every morning? Scratch that. I get some weekends off. When the kids are with their dad, I can do anything I want, or nothing at all. If I want to order Thai food and binge-watch Netflix, I can. If I want to go sing karaoke and dance all night, no one will be annoyed when I come home at 4 AM, sweaty and exhausted. If I want to take the train to Coney Island on a gray winter morning, wander the boardwalk and people-watch, no one will whine that they're cold and bored.
Sure, when I first got divorced, it was hard to say goodbye to the girls when they went to their father's place for a few days, and sometimes I still really miss them, but I've learned to make the most of my time off. Being able to clock out from parenting gives me a chance to recharge and remember that I'm still me, not just mom.
3. I get to make the rules.
There's still some negotiation and compromising on big-picture parenting strategies, but at my place, I make the house rules. No more trying to get the kids to fall asleep after their dad winds them up. No more, "But Daddy said I could eat snacks on the sofa!" No more getting the side-eye from a partner who's not fully on board with my discipline methods.
When the kids are with me, what I say goes. Is being completely in charge worth carrying the burden of making all the decisions myself, with no one around to back me up? Absolutely. Because I'm the mom, that's why. Enough said.
4. I found out how amazing my friends are.
When you're a single mom, your friends really step up. At least mine have. Whether it's picking my kids up from school and feeding them dinner, buying me a drink and listening to me unload about my latest parenting drama, or driving me to the grocery store so I don't have to shoulder a load of heavy bags home on the train, my friends are there for me.
Trying to keep up the charade of my perfect marriage and happy home was isolating. Post-divorce, my little corner of Brooklyn has never felt more like a village. We all have each other's backs. Most of the time I don't even think of myself as a single mom, because I've got so many people pitching in to help me out.
And it's a two-way street: on weekends when I have the girls, I take my girlfriends' kids for sleepovers so they can have a night off. Plus, they get to live vicariously through my dating adventures. (Married moms love it when you let them swipe on your Tinder account.)
5. I'm excited about the future again.
When I was married, it felt like the rest of my life was more or less laid out in front of me. I was going to spend every day with this same person, forever. That idea should've been reassuring, exciting, gratifying — all those things marriage is supposed to be. Except, I was miserable. Maybe it had to do with our 17-year age difference.
At 35, I was a completely different person than I'd been when I got married. Still, I was stuck with the partner 23-year-old me had chosen. Meanwhile, my husband was the same guy he'd been since we met. I had to face the reality that our problems weren't going to go away, and be honest about whether I could live with them.
I asked myself, Would I want one of my daughters to stay in a marriage this unhappy? The answer was no. I wanted my girls to grow up knowing it's never too late to change course and pursue happiness, even if it means breaking a promise. So instead of staying in a marriage that was never really right for my husband or me, I decided to take the leap and gamble on a better future for us all.
Yes, going through a divorce is rough. It was hard on me, hard on my ex, hard on the kids. But you know what’s worse than getting divorced? Feeling lonely every day and knowing it's never going to get better. Fighting in front of your kids. Letting anger and bitterness take up residence in your soul.
When I got divorced, all of that went away. I'm a better mom now. More stressed sometimes, maybe, but also happier and a lot more fun. Life feels full of promise and possibility. When I wake up in the morning, I'm excited for a new day. And single or married, that's the kind of mom I want to be.
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2018-10-02 at 10:20 AM UTCDon’t know what kind of trash you’re meeting, but I’ve been a single mom, and the last person I thought of was me. My son ALWAYS came first when I’d consider dating. I did not date till he was 11, and only because he said, “Mom, you should start dating.” I did not want my son to disrespect woman. I did not want a son who saw different men coming and going at different times. Too many of my male friends talked badly about their mothers and their dating lifestyle. Of course it is ideal for a child to have both parents there, but if not, a child needs security, not chaos. My son never called anyone daddy, not even his own dad. Now that he’s 21, his father wants to be his drinking buddy. My son told him to grow up and be a dad, or move along; this was just a couple months ago.
Sooo, labeling all single moms the same is bullshit. I didn’t get married till my son was 19, and he’s close to my husband. I guess the fact that I could support myself and my son on my own, played into it. I didn’t need anyone’s help.
I’ll admit, my son’s teenage years were hell, but I stayed strong, as strong as I could, and we survived his teenage years.
You all wanna ride a girl bareback, but she’s a whore if she gets pregnant. Oh, ok! SMDH.
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2018-10-02 at 10:49 AM UTC
Originally posted by Technologist Don’t know what kind of trash you’re meeting, but I’ve been a single mom, and the last person I thought of was me. My son ALWAYS came first when I’d consider dating. I did not date till he was 11, and only because he said, “Mom, you should start dating.” I did not want my son to disrespect woman. I did not want a son who saw different men coming and going at different times. Too many of my male friends talked badly about their mothers and their dating lifestyle. Of course it is ideal for a child to have both parents there, but if not, a child needs security, not chaos. My son never called anyone daddy, not even his own dad. Now that he’s 21, his father wants to be his drinking buddy. My son told him to grow up and be a dad, or move along; this was just a couple months ago.
Sooo, labeling all single moms the same is bullshit. I didn’t get married till my son was 19, and he’s close to my husband. I guess the fact that I could support myself and my son on my own, played into it. I didn’t need anyone’s help.
I’ll admit, my son’s teenage years were hell, but I stayed strong, as strong as I could, and we survived his teenage years.
You all wanna ride a girl bareback, but she’s a whore if she gets pregnant. Oh, ok! SMDH.
Peace out!
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2018-10-02 at 10:50 AM UTC
Originally posted by Technologist Don’t know what kind of trash you’re meeting, but I’ve been a single mom, and the last person I thought of was me. My son ALWAYS came first when I’d consider dating. I did not date till he was 11, and only because he said, “Mom, you should start dating.” I did not want my son to disrespect woman. I did not want a son who saw different men coming and going at different times. Too many of my male friends talked badly about their mothers and their dating lifestyle. Of course it is ideal for a child to have both parents there, but if not, a child needs security, not chaos. My son never called anyone daddy, not even his own dad. Now that he’s 21, his father wants to be his drinking buddy. My son told him to grow up and be a dad, or move along; this was just a couple months ago.
Sooo, labeling all single moms the same is bullshit. I didn’t get married till my son was 19, and he’s close to my husband. I guess the fact that I could support myself and my son on my own, played into it. I didn’t need anyone’s help.
I’ll admit, my son’s teenage years were hell, but I stayed strong, as strong as I could, and we survived his teenage years.
You all wanna ride a girl bareback, but she’s a whore if she gets pregnant. Oh, ok! SMDH.
Peace out!
you are fucking trash, the guy should come first because he's going to be taking care of you and your bastard.
Girls aren't "whores" if they get pregnant, no one said that dumbass. they are lying bitches if they get pregnant by lying about being on birth control when they really aren't. thats how my kid was conceived.
by deception.
dare to take the rational black pill fam? -
2018-10-02 at 10:50 AM UTC
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2018-10-02 at 11:24 AM UTCBill Krozby you’re an ass that caused your child to not have a father. Hypocrite!
Torx,
Aww how cute, another fan from DH. How’s it going? How sweet to hide behind an alt. Go on with your bad self.
Peace! -
2018-10-02 at 11:29 AM UTCTo a rapist, all women are whores. What did your mom do to you? Did you have many daddies?
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2018-10-02 at 12:10 PM UTC
Originally posted by Bill Krozby I gotcha, and I'm sure most people here even the dum dums get it, but I've known other guys here and in real life that that have made it work, but I think even in most recent days its a lot worse, that was the point of my thread because im highly sightricle lol
but all jokes aside its a very side to thing to see something like that.
It was weird because we actually had good times in the last couple weeks but her mom unfortunately was over zealous about me ( I know im far from perfect but I'm actually upfront on a lot of thing and peoples kids despite what you say about me) and it really made me feel sad to see a girl like that, but at the same time she really never had anything going more for her except her parents money.
A part of me loves the little girl and her mom and sleeping with her mom, but I can tell she's extremely "frothy" even at 34 where I've known girls "cuckcape" girl that was 38 and had no children was way more free but wasn't as haggard and more fun and would date younger guys.
I'm sure weird sex can back me up on this, but at the same time its quite the quandary. I've literally never seen someone so depressed on anti-pissants, all she can do is just have her dad pay her way and have guys fuck her that will never give a shit about her. But if a guy that comes a long that has gone through a similar experience but on the opposite spectrum people totally dismiss that.
I honestly feel bad for this "woman" when she ask for a "real man"
its just down amazing. that's why I said "single women with kids are the bane of society"
I can dig it, it's actually sad cause i know a single mom who just wants another man, but the guys who are interested in being a step dad and are ready to be serious appear "thirsty" to her, even though she is mad thirsty herself, so she just comes on too strong and scares away anyone who ain't thirsty. Good dome(head) though.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2018-10-02 at 12:16 PM UTC
Originally posted by Bill Krozby she should be grateful she has daddies money and her kid is well taken care of a lot of kids these days are literally in cages
I personally don't believe kavanaugh raped anyone but if he becomes a part of the us supreme court he will make this problem a lot worse.
negative.
if he bacame supreme judge the US rape rate would drop by 55% overnight. -
2018-10-02 at 1:11 PM UTC
Originally posted by Bill Krozby why being a single mom rocks! HURRR!
1. I don't wake up filled with rage every morning.
When you're in a toxic relationship, the smallest thing can set you off. On a typical morning when I was married, I'd have run a loop in the park, made breakfast, packed my daughters' lunches, signed a permission slip, found a lost mitten, and broken up a sibling squabble before my husband sleepily shuffled into the kitchen.
He'd make a pot of coffee and stand there in his pajamas, waiting for it to brew. It drove me bananas. My girls got used to hearing mommy yell. As a single mom, I still have to do everything myself every morning, but at least I don't have to watch someone else sip his coffee and stare out the window while I'm doing it. And I'm no longer the mom who yells.
2. I get whole weekends off from being a mom.
Did I say I have to do everything myself every morning? Scratch that. I get some weekends off. When the kids are with their dad, I can do anything I want, or nothing at all. If I want to order Thai food and binge-watch Netflix, I can. If I want to go sing karaoke and dance all night, no one will be annoyed when I come home at 4 AM, sweaty and exhausted. If I want to take the train to Coney Island on a gray winter morning, wander the boardwalk and people-watch, no one will whine that they're cold and bored.
Sure, when I first got divorced, it was hard to say goodbye to the girls when they went to their father's place for a few days, and sometimes I still really miss them, but I've learned to make the most of my time off. Being able to clock out from parenting gives me a chance to recharge and remember that I'm still me, not just mom.
3. I get to make the rules.
There's still some negotiation and compromising on big-picture parenting strategies, but at my place, I make the house rules. No more trying to get the kids to fall asleep after their dad winds them up. No more, "But Daddy said I could eat snacks on the sofa!" No more getting the side-eye from a partner who's not fully on board with my discipline methods.
When the kids are with me, what I say goes. Is being completely in charge worth carrying the burden of making all the decisions myself, with no one around to back me up? Absolutely. Because I'm the mom, that's why. Enough said.
4. I found out how amazing my friends are.
When you're a single mom, your friends really step up. At least mine have. Whether it's picking my kids up from school and feeding them dinner, buying me a drink and listening to me unload about my latest parenting drama, or driving me to the grocery store so I don't have to shoulder a load of heavy bags home on the train, my friends are there for me.
Trying to keep up the charade of my perfect marriage and happy home was isolating. Post-divorce, my little corner of Brooklyn has never felt more like a village. We all have each other's backs. Most of the time I don't even think of myself as a single mom, because I've got so many people pitching in to help me out.
And it's a two-way street: on weekends when I have the girls, I take my girlfriends' kids for sleepovers so they can have a night off. Plus, they get to live vicariously through my dating adventures. (Married moms love it when you let them swipe on your Tinder account.)
5. I'm excited about the future again.
When I was married, it felt like the rest of my life was more or less laid out in front of me. I was going to spend every day with this same person, forever. That idea should've been reassuring, exciting, gratifying — all those things marriage is supposed to be. Except, I was miserable. Maybe it had to do with our 17-year age difference.
At 35, I was a completely different person than I'd been when I got married. Still, I was stuck with the partner 23-year-old me had chosen. Meanwhile, my husband was the same guy he'd been since we met. I had to face the reality that our problems weren't going to go away, and be honest about whether I could live with them.
I asked myself, Would I want one of my daughters to stay in a marriage this unhappy? The answer was no. I wanted my girls to grow up knowing it's never too late to change course and pursue happiness, even if it means breaking a promise. So instead of staying in a marriage that was never really right for my husband or me, I decided to take the leap and gamble on a better future for us all.
Yes, going through a divorce is rough. It was hard on me, hard on my ex, hard on the kids. But you know what’s worse than getting divorced? Feeling lonely every day and knowing it's never going to get better. Fighting in front of your kids. Letting anger and bitterness take up residence in your soul.
When I got divorced, all of that went away. I'm a better mom now. More stressed sometimes, maybe, but also happier and a lot more fun. Life feels full of promise and possibility. When I wake up in the morning, I'm excited for a new day. And single or married, that's the kind of mom I want to be.
(not one single thing about the kids come up, its just all about the mom )
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2018-10-02 at 7:51 PM UTC
Originally posted by Technologist Bill Krozby you’re an ass that caused your child to not have a father. Hypocrite!
Torx,
Aww how cute, another fan from DH. How’s it going? How sweet to hide behind an alt. Go on with your bad self.
Peace!
I don't know where you get you're information from, but I believe it was her mother that did that. Are you by chance a functional retard that likes to talk out his ass? -
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2018-10-02 at 8:04 PM UTCcould anyone make out what the rapist was even saying in the op?
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2018-10-02 at 8:40 PM UTClol it has nothing to do with lolita, i've read that book and I'm not a fag like that and I'm not a black, if you see it that way then you are probably a total pedo, but thats totally rich coming from this site.
I was just writing about what I know like always do.
