Originally posted by Daily
How is it possible to be in "several" abusive relationships? Are you fucking retarded or do you just hate yourself that much? Or do you enjoy it? Do you enjoy it when somebody "abuses" you, does it feel right, do you feel like you deserve it
I'm still loling at your boyfriend saying "How so?" when I pointed out the degeneracy in this thread
You people make me fucking sick
I'm 28. I'd say I've been in a handful of relationships with varying degrees of abuse. I only had one with physical abuse, which was really my first serious relationship. The others were varying degrees of manipulative shit, or psychological abuse on some level. All were very different from one another.
Retarded? I wouldn't say I'm retarded, but yes, I agree, I've done some retarded things. I've trusted too much, and hoped, and tried to have some semblance of peace and happiness in my life, and my biggest fault has been catering too much to the other's desires, and not taking in account my own happiness. I would say I have some self hatred, and it may have contributed in part to some of the shit I dealt with and put of with, feeling as though I deserved this hell, but I've never enjoyed or liked being abused and treated like shit, hence why I'm out, and not in a relationship at this current time, once I've come to see the shit for what it is, to see these people don't love or give a fuck about me, and that I'm just being leeched on, or used for some purpose. Manipulators are hard to people to get away from, and there were also so outside influences too that made leaving very, very hard.
Scrawny is definitely NOT my boyfriend. I don't ave anything personal against him, but he's not my type, not by a long shot.
Originally posted by NARCassist
but this is what i mean. those things are what the people who are desperately seeking a relationship do. they go getting these ideas in their head of what their ideal partner will be like, like a fucking checklist. it ends up becoming like interviewing job applicants or summing. its like if they decide their ideal person would have blue eyes, they'll then immediately reject anyone with brown eyes without any consideration. unknowingly that perfect person could just happen to be somebody with brown eyes, and they'll never know coz they'll be busy chasing blue eyed idiots like a dog chasing its tail. its not about checklists and criteria's. its about gelling with somebody, you'll usually have a good idea about this within seconds of meeting that person. you will feel it immediately, you'll feel totally comfortable around them, like you can talk about anything and won't feel like you have to put on any mask or pretend to be somebody your not or have to do shit to impress them. and you'll feel that they feel it too. you'll feel that you really enjoy just being in their company. its completely different to being around a chick who is just hot and you're just thinking 'man i really wanna bang her', yet she's a total basic bitch who just jabbers on about dumb shit and is actually pretty annoying personality wise. yeah you can ignore that shit or even play along with it just to get in her pants, but being with her long term would be fucking horrible.
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Oh, dude, yes, I agree here too, especially on the physical appearance front. Personality and intellect are far more desirable qualities than looks. Beauty fades for everyone. One day we all are going to be old wrinkled prunes, better be an old wrinkled prune with someone you love and are happy with than some cunt who's probably ten times as ugly as the ugly old prunes, from all the tanning beds and dumbshit woman tend to do for the sake of looking "beautiful". I don't understand how people can look past someone's awful personality, just because they have a nice set of tits and a pretty face, and body, and still want to be with that. Or when people will over look someone on something like eye color, a little bit of weight, or some other physical imperfection, when they might have the greatest personality of all, and click with you better than anyone, thus making you happier than the 10/10 bitch. If you just want sex, then just go for sex, no need for the drama and leading on of relationships.
Originally posted by S the C
No I don't like hydro anymore she ignored me and wouldn't send nudes. Neither did anyone else but hydro actually pissed me off the most somehow, at least kreepy Kay and kinkou talked to me.
I was too shy to talk to HTS at first but then after we became friends I fell madly in love with her and even offered to fly her to my city to hang out with me on my birthday.
Now we are best friends and lovers. The past is the past, the future is bright.
And you're just a Debbie Downer troll faggot go kill yourself, your probably just an alt anyways.
Well, you don't have any reason to be pissed off now, everything worked out for the best, didn't it? You got HTS, and HTS has got you, and you all can live happily ever after. I'm really happy for you guys, especially since HTS seem to be going through a bit of depression and loneliness, I'm glad she's got someone she's happy with. I don't send nudes to just anyone, and if I do, it means I really trust that person, care and love them. It was nothing personal, I'm just weird like that. I tried to be nice, but ultimately was in a bad place at the time, and especially didn't want any relationship with anyone... honestly, the last 3 I've had, they've all began with me not wanting to be with anyone, but circumstances, along with a friendship first, then feeling beginning to grow helped those come to be. It took a long while for me to get there with any of the people who've had nudes of me, which is a total of 3 people.
We can unite under the flag that we agree daily is an asshole nigger, kill-joy. People make mistakes, people get mixed in fucked up shit. We all in someway are degenerates who post on this forum. I think that's what brings most of us together. I think the most important thing is learning from the past, and moving on in positive way, in attempting to better yourself along the way. We have all of society that wold shit on us for one thing or another in or past, at least here we have people who understand what that's like, and some, having empathy and advice on how to become better than that "degenerate" thing in the past. Pisses me off when people give LSD shit for the coffee thing with his mother like
all the fucking time, which happened forever ago, likely had a lot of things misinterpreted, and I doubt (from reading the case too) happened as was reported, and as everyone wants to keep spinning it. Domestic violence charges are weird, and now days, once they're involved, be it for whatever, usually someone is going to jail, and they're going to press charges no matter what the "victim" says, which were different a long while ago, where that didn't happen, not without the "victim" press charges. Now they're charge-happy and want to take someone in to fuck, so why not the kid when they think probably did something he shouldn't, even if it wasn't what they thought initially. Even just as a joke, it stopped being funny a long while ago. It's time to move on from that shit.