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2017-11-17 at 1:24 AM UTC
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2017-11-17 at 2:08 AM UTC
Originally posted by Dargo No I didn't. You edited it after I posted. Check the time stamp.
I edited my spelling. Quit stirring up drama.
Originally posted by NARCassist you should read this op
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory
I had no relationship with either of my parents. My mom use to admit that she wanted to abort me and that she had an abortion no long before I was born. I can't think of a single time, that I had a real one-on-one conversation with either of my parents, about anything important. Even as a little kid, they never taught me anything, never gave me advice, nothing. I remember that if I went to my mom for help, she'd always say things like "life's a bitch and then you die" or "figure it out on your own". My dad would always roll his eyes and let it be known that he didn't want to help me.
As an adult I have no romantic relationships(except strippers), no relationships at all aside from co-workers that don't like me.
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2017-11-17 at 2:17 AM UTC
Originally posted by SBTlauien I had no relationship with either of my parents. My mom use to admit that she wanted to abort me and that she had an abortion no long before I was born. I can't think of a single time, that I had a real one-on-one conversation with either of my parents, about anything important. Even as a little kid, they never taught me anything, never gave me advice, nothing. I remember that if I went to my mom for help, she'd always say things like "life's a bitch and then you die" or "figure it out on your own". My dad would always roll his eyes and let it be known that he didn't want to help me.
As an adult I have no romantic relationships(except strippers), no relationships at all aside from co-workers that don't like me.
So this attachment theory isn't going to apply to me.
you sound like a classic group A anxious-avoidant attachment.Anxious-avoidant attachment[edit]
An infant with an anxious-avoidant pattern of attachment will avoid or ignore the caregiver—showing little emotion when the caregiver departs or returns. The infant will not explore very much regardless of who is there. Infants classified as anxious-avoidant (A) represented a puzzle in the early 1970s. They did not exhibit distress on separation, and either ignored the caregiver on their return (A1 subtype) or showed some tendency to approach together with some tendency to ignore or turn away from the caregiver (A2 subtype). Ainsworth and Bell theorized that the apparently unruffled behaviour of the avoidant infants was in fact a mask for distress, a hypothesis later evidenced through studies of the heart-rate of avoidant infants.[46][47]
Infants are depicted as anxious-avoidant when there is:
"… conspicuous avoidance of the mother in the reunion episodes which is likely to consist of ignoring her altogether, although there may be some pointed looking away, turning away, or moving away … If there is a greeting when the mother enters, it tends to be a mere look or a smile … Either the baby does not approach his mother upon reunion, or they approach in 'abortive' fashions with the baby going past the mother, or it tends to only occur after much coaxing … If picked up, the baby shows little or no contact-maintaining behavior; he tends not to cuddle in; he looks away and he may squirm to get down."[30]
Ainsworth's narrative records showed that infants avoided the caregiver in the stressful Strange Situation Procedure when they had a history of experiencing rebuff of attachment behaviour. The infant's needs were frequently not met and the infant had come to believe that communication of emotional needs had no influence on the caregiver. Ainsworth's student Mary Main theorized that avoidant behaviour in the Strange Situational Procedure should be regarded as "a conditional strategy, which paradoxically permits whatever proximity is possible under conditions of maternal rejection" by de-emphasising attachment needs.[48] Main proposed that avoidance has two functions for an infant whose caregiver is consistently unresponsive to their needs. Firstly, avoidant behaviour allows the infant to maintain a conditional proximity with the caregiver: close enough to maintain protection, but distant enough to avoid rebuff. Secondly, the cognitive processes organising avoidant behaviour could help direct attention away from the unfulfilled desire for closeness with the caregiver—avoiding a situation in which the child is overwhelmed with emotion ('disorganized distress'), and therefore unable to maintain control of themselves and achieve even conditional proximity.[49]
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Significance of patterns[edit]
Research based on data from longitudinal studies, such as the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development Study of Early Child Care and the Minnesota Study of Risk and Adaption from Birth to Adulthood, and from cross-sectional studies, consistently shows associations between early attachment classifications and peer relationships as to both quantity and quality. Lyons-Ruth, for example, found that "for each additional withdrawing behavior displayed by mothers in relation to their infant's attachment cues in the Strange Situation Procedure, the likelihood of clinical referral by service providers was increased by 50%."[73]
There is an extensive body of research demonstrating a significant association between attachment organizations and children's functioning across multiple domains.[74] Early insecure attachment does not necessarily predict difficulties, but it is a liability for the child, particularly if similar parental behaviours continue throughout childhood.[75] Compared to that of securely attached children, the adjustment of insecure children in many spheres of life is not as soundly based, putting their future relationships in jeopardy. Although the link is not fully established by research and there are other influences besides attachment, secure infants are more likely to become socially competent than their insecure peers. Relationships formed with peers influence the acquisition of social skills, intellectual development and the formation of social identity. Classification of children's peer status (popular, neglected or rejected) has been found to predict subsequent adjustment.[65] Insecure children, particularly avoidant children, are especially vulnerable to family risk. Their social and behavioural problems increase or decline with deterioration or improvement in parenting. However, an early secure attachment appears to have a lasting protective function.[76] As with attachment to parental figures, subsequent experiences may alter the course of development.[65]
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2017-11-17 at 3:12 AM UTC^So I'd be/am fucked...
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2017-11-17 at 3:21 AM UTCNot really. Attachment styles can't be used to predict adult outcomes with any notable accuracy. If that was the case, the 40% or so of the population who didn't develop a secure attachment style would be fucked for life.
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2017-11-17 at 6:11 AM UTCCan you name one good reason why people shouldn't fucking hate you?
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2017-11-17 at 7:54 AM UTCSBT is a mockery of me.. because of the right eye (which is part of the civic explosion threat on me is also updating my right eye software) in which mimicks the Oakland Raiders symbol. and calling me Popeye. and the freeway on I880 has a sign that mocks me too the oc.0 exit near hegenburger.
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2017-11-17 at 8:55 AM UTC
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2017-11-17 at 10:26 AM UTC
Originally posted by Totse 2001 SBT is a mockery of me.. because of the right eye (which is part of the civic explosion threat on me is also updating my right eye software) in which mimicks the Oakland Raiders symbol. and calling me Popeye. and the freeway on I880 has a sign that mocks me too the oc.0 exit near hegenburger.
Fuk u puppet of lan
look guys, he's really losing it now, lol.
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2017-11-17 at 5:11 PM UTCAre we going to let this thread die yet? SBT already said he wanted it to die.
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2017-11-17 at 5:22 PM UTCI can't wait for this morning poop after this cigarette. It'll be so much better than this thread.
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2017-11-17 at 9:44 PM UTC
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2017-11-17 at 9:49 PM UTCWhat if Totse 2001 is the greatest Captain Falcon troll account of all time?
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