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People Don't Like Me
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2017-10-11 at 6:23 PM UTC
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2017-10-11 at 6:33 PM UTC
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2017-10-11 at 8:34 PM UTCI've been told by a lot of people that I'm a nice/kind person. I thought maybe I was too nice, and tried being asshole but it made things worse.
I don't insult people and I would say that I'm usually positive.
I've just noticed that everywhere I go, other people become friends, have their little groups, go to eachothers parties. But I am always alone. People will talk to me, but I can tell that they don't like me. Its in the tone and way they talk to me, like they want me to know that they don't like me.
I've never been able to figure it out but a lot is because I always told myself that I didn't care. -
2017-10-11 at 8:35 PM UTCSocial anxiety bordering on paranoid delusion. How old are you? I don't mean that in a condescending way, just wondering if you're around the age where something like that might be developing.
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2017-10-11 at 8:39 PM UTCOr maybe you're just lame. I dunno, you could just come off as awkward or something, but you should still really consider that it could be psychological.
Maybe you're not putting in as much effort to becoming closer friends with people than the people you observe cliquing up? It's a two-way street. I dunno, I used to feel similar when I was younger, that others seemed to become good friends, and I wasn't ever as close with those groups, though I was still friends with a lot of people. Just not as close as I perceived them to be with each other or as I wanted to be. I think it might just be something a lot of people feel. They might not see themselves as being as close as you do. I dunno, I don't really have friends these days nor mind a whole lot, so it's hard to say. -
2017-10-11 at 8:40 PM UTC
Originally posted by SBTlauien What could I be doing that makes people not like me? I've noticed throughout my life that people definitely do not like me. They walk by someone and say "hi" and talk, walk by me and say nothing or say hi in a way that shows they don't like me, and then walk by another person and say "hi, how are you". I never really cared before but now I'm trying to figure out why nobody has ever liked me.
My family has always treated me like shit. My mother use to admit that she didn't want to have me and openly admitted that she had an abortion after she had my older brother. They've always been close with each other but they made it clear that they don't like me. So I stopped associating with them like ten years ago.
At my last long-term job, in cold storage, I started off working really hard and was respectful to everyone. Immediately I could tell that my supervisor was trying to get me to quit. He liked all of the other new guys but made it clear that he didn't like me. So I started fucking shit up after about six months.
I don't want to be a piece of shit. I just want to be normal, but it seems as if everyone dislikes me and treats me unfairly. It's very obvious that people don't like me. I've always just vented by doing bad things but I've stopped and now I can't figure out why people hate me.
I've began making changes in an attempt to get people to like me. I've began to lose weight and started reading different self help books on socializing, but still, nobody likes me. Sometimes people are nice to me, but it always turns out that they are trying to trick me.
What could it be? ):
its because you're a cunt
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2017-10-11 at 8:42 PM UTC
Originally posted by SBTlauien I've been told by a lot of people that I'm a nice/kind person. I thought maybe I was too nice, and tried being asshole but it made things worse.
I don't insult people and I would say that I'm usually positive.
I've just noticed that everywhere I go, other people become friends, have their little groups, go to eachothers parties. But I am always alone. People will talk to me, but I can tell that they don't like me. Its in the tone and way they talk to me, like they want me to know that they don't like me.
I've never been able to figure it out but a lot is because I always told myself that I didn't care.
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2017-10-11 at 8:43 PM UTC
Originally posted by LegalizeSpiritualDiscovery Social anxiety bordering on paranoid delusion. How old are you? I don't mean that in a condescending way, just wondering if you're around the age where something like that might be developing.
I'm in my mid 30's. I've noticed these things my whole life though. But like I said, I told myself I didn't care and figured my place was being a criminal. I always told myself that I don't care that people don't like me, because I had just commited some type of crime, and they didn't even know. Almost like I had something above them. But really, all this shit I've done has been because they don't like me. -
2017-10-11 at 8:45 PM UTCactually its prolly not you that's the cunt, its most other people. fuck em.
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2017-10-11 at 8:50 PM UTCI think it's probable that you and everybody else are cunts so you should actually fit in.
There must be something else going on. -
2017-10-11 at 8:59 PM UTCu hate urself u think ur fat
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2017-10-11 at 9:07 PM UTCWell, as the winds once spake unto to the skies above, "It is not the path you take, but the friends you make, and if you can't make friends, you probably suck ass because there's billions of people out there Jesus fuck become a Juggalo or some shit got DANG nigga."
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2017-10-11 at 9:29 PM UTCtry HTS, he's desperate for friends, will literally take anybody. i don't think you'd even have to be that nice to him.
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2017-10-11 at 11:08 PM UTCI'm really not desperate, just trying to figure out why. Like trying to fix myself. I can't help myself if I don't know what's wrong with me. I know the problem, and the goal, but I don't know the cause of the problem and that means I can't fix the problem.
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2017-10-11 at 11:15 PM UTCSBT I think it's possible you are just psyching yourself out.
Do yourself a favour, ignore everything else, stop overthinking it, and go do some new shit. Report back results from people you meet there, if they have the same vibe. Even just go to a new bar and try to strike up some conversations.
Tell us if you feel that from other people. Act like nobody thinks anything of you.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2017-10-12 at 12:23 AM UTC
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2017-10-12 at 1:20 AM UTC
Originally posted by Captain Falcon SBT I think it's possible you are just psyching yourself out.
Do yourself a favour, ignore everything else, stop overthinking it, and go do some new shit. Report back results from people you meet there, if they have the same vibe. Even just go to a new bar and try to strike up some conversations.
Tell us if you feel that from other people. Act like nobody thinks anything of you.
Are bars the best place for me to go though?
I have a job interview next week, so a new job would be a good start. All new people, and it creates a conversation starter.
Maybe I need to get into a winter sport like skiing or something... -
2017-10-12 at 3:48 AM UTC
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2017-10-12 at 11:28 AM UTC
Originally posted by Enter The majority of people on this site have interesting/fun personalities. But if we were better looking, we wouldn't have to be here. Deny it all you want.
I'm trying to work on my appearance. Losing weight(specifically fat), dressing better, better posture. I even want to get a better car, something more manly. A girl I work with told me that I drive a women's car.
When I look at other guy's that have family and friends, they seem fit, like they grew up knowing what to do, what they wanted, and how to go about it. I've never had that. I don't know what I even want in life, or what I can even realistically get at this point in my life. I'm so far out of all socialization that I don't even pronounce words correctly, I don't know how social sites/apps work, I don't understand the lingo that people use. I'm like a foreigner from an island with a population of one. -
2017-10-12 at 2:29 PM UTC
Originally posted by SBTlauien I'm trying to work on my appearance. Losing weight(specifically fat), dressing better, better posture. I even want to get a better car, something more manly. A girl I work with told me that I drive a women's car.
When I look at other guy's that have family and friends, they seem fit, like they grew up knowing what to do, what they wanted, and how to go about it. I've never had that. I don't know what I even want in life, or what I can even realistically get at this point in my life. I'm so far out of all socialization that I don't even pronounce words correctly, I don't know how social sites/apps work, I don't understand the lingo that people use. I'm like a foreigner from an island with a population of one.
Are you for real breh? I've been getting the sense that you may just be trolling ever since you started your "This guy i work with is a total asshole" series of threads. I could be wrong, it could be just because you're socially not that strong that i think this but come on. You've been on the internet quite a while, of course you will know the lingo of social things on the internet. And if not you could google it and find out.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
