2017-08-04 at 5:02 PM UTC
Recently I've mostly been keeping to myself, just trying to work as much as possible and save up as much cash as possible for future endeavors while being fairly sober and feeding my mind and body with healthy things as opposed to just accepting whatever trash comes my way. Anyways I've realized that I'm kind of a target for people to come up to and vent to me about the shit situations they get themselves into, expecting me to take their side. I sort of just usually say something along the lines of "well I guess that's just the way it is" or something dumb like that, but it's kind of getting on my nerves that I attract these sorts of people. I feel like I should cut them off from wasting my time with their negativity somehow, but I don't really know a way to do that without coming off as abrasive af.
As an example of what I am talking about, there's this one guy I know from school who smokes a ton and is kind of an asshole. He's pretty much like tucker carlson. He has a very big ego and every time we hang out he inevitable starts ranting about liberals or hating mexicans or something and expects me to join in. He also does things like talks about how intelligent "we" are, like he's including me in some sort of group that we are then assuming is better than everyone else. I don't agree but I feel like instead of having a normal social relationship where two people respect each other as human beings, he is breaching that somewhat by expecting me to ease some of the responsibility of his racism/weed smoking (he passive aggressively jokes about me not smoking weed with him whenever I decline to smoke.)
There's also this guy I work with who is alright, except for that he gets totally caught up in the small little work world he lives in and gets unnecessarily upset over minor perceived slights from customers. He likes the drama and invites it by being rude to customers who are also rude, so that they escalate the situation and get involved in a big hissy fit, then after, he comes over to me (and anyone else who will listen) and gives us a play by play rundown of exactly what happened, but he gives the version of the story that places 100% of the blame on the customer, and none on him.
I don't really want to sit here and waste time having to hear people's shit, I've got my own shit that I need to do and having to listen to someone's insignificant problems takes up space in my brain that could be better used to plan, dream, or just be silent and resting.
Anyways what should I do?
2017-08-04 at 6:28 PM UTC
Obbe
Alan What?
[annoy my right-angled speediness]
Put on some music, when they start bitching turn up the volume and ignore them.
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2017-08-04 at 6:34 PM UTC
people like that bitch to everyone, not just you. Have had co-workers i never talked to besides hello come to me with their problems before. They talk to anybody who will listen so just dont listen. Get back to work instead.
2017-08-04 at 8:01 PM UTC
its your beta personality which makes you a perfect receptacle for mundane, shitty opinions.
the only solution is for you to be an beta but then being beta is a something that your born with, not acquired.
2017-08-04 at 9:05 PM UTC
these days, people like that i just go 'i don't wanna hear it pal' and walk away. they might think i'm a moody cunt but i don't give a shit coz the opinion of morons like that don't count. funnily enough they never do it twice.
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2017-08-04 at 9:07 PM UTC
'oh yeah, you need to talk to the other guy'
'what guy?'
'the one that gives a fuck'
^also works pretty well too.
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2017-08-05 at 12:23 AM UTC
followed by 'FUCK OFF YA MUG, YOU'RE BORING'
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2017-08-05 at 8:24 AM UTC
no, beta's would miss the jaw completely and fall ass over tit in one foul swoop.
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2017-08-05 at 8:26 AM UTC
or would hit the jaw then recoil from the pain as the bones in their hand snapped while the subject just stared at them blankly.
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2017-08-05 at 9:32 AM UTC
You people have the most retarded problems. GreenPlastit are you fucking mentally disabled? How about you either call out what they're doing and be frank about it, or be a bitch nigger and bear it. Wtf response do you want, you stupid ass circlejerking phallus enthusiast?
2017-08-05 at 9:35 AM UTC
i have to side with captain phallus on this one.
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2017-08-05 at 12:52 PM UTC
Clearly these people consider you a friend, or at least a part of their social in-group. Now you can tell them to fuck right off because you don't want to be their friend because of their stupid mundane shit. Or you can just politely nod along like a good person would. Keep an excuse at hand for when you can't bear it. Like tell your co-worker: Listen Jimmy, you're totally right about that customer but i gotta finish [insert whatever you are doing] here. Also, if you make excuses often enough people will get the hint without the need for you to tell them to fuck off. So do whatever.
There's a great irony in this thread though, you complain about people complaining to you about mundane shit then you come here and complain to us about mundane shit.
