2017-06-24 at 7:15 PM UTC
Why do people wait until their kid is older to tell them they're adopted, generally?
I would think it would be easier to introduce the concept to them as soon as possible so they just ease into it instead of the sudden shock when they're older.
Only thing is, I don't know the right way to tell a little kid that you're not his real daddy.
2017-06-24 at 7:30 PM UTC
I wouldn't tell them, tbh
Unless there is an OBVIOUS reason as to why you aren't their biological parent.
2017-06-24 at 7:39 PM UTC
Eh, there can be a number of reasons
-it can be complex
-parents fear it will weaken their bond with the kid
-parents don't want to risk answering questions about birth mother or whatever
-parents fear it will obstruct their authority ("I don't have to do what you say because you aren't my real dad")
-kids can have trouble processing it
I dunno. I suppose if I adopted an infant I'd tell them right off the bat. It won't really do any harm as long as it's done right. With Tommy it's obvious I'm not his real father, and there haven't been any problems with that so far. I told him he doesn't have to call me 'dad' or anything, but he still does because he wants to.
2017-06-24 at 8:22 PM UTC
i was adopted but i always knew coz i was like 5 and it all went through the high court in london.
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2017-07-23 at 3:22 PM UTC
Do they let single men adopt children? If they do I think I will start a kid farm where you farm and go to school and get them at the age where I can teach them to be guitar gods. Constant work and structure and becoming a professional musician.
2017-07-24 at 3:49 AM UTC
No, kids that learn to play music at a young age will always be better than anyone who starts in adulthood.
