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2017-07-17 at 7:54 PM UTC
Originally posted by greenplastic True, but you also can't force it to be therapeutic. If you really feel that you love one person, then physical contact with someone else is probably not going to make you happy.
Perhaps.
Here's my line of thinking on the matter, and it's much like how I view the idea of marriage , or even monogamy. This idea that we are destined to "fall in love" with the one person that is made for us. Our partner. Our lover.
We say things like, "she's the girl of my dreams, I'd never want to be with anyone else in a million years." Then get married, and dedicate each other to.. each other. Not allowed to be with another person for the rest of your life, lest you break the special and powerful vows that you made to one another.
But wait, why are divorce rates so high? Why are all these seemingly in love couples soon finding out that they aren't as happy as they think they are, that their partner isn't I'm fact the ONE AND ONLY person for them?
The idea of monogamy represents feelings of pride, and security, which is why we've bought into the ideals of marriage and not cheating, we feel important believing that we have somehow locked into the partner of our dreams, and that they feel the same way. We lie to convince ourselves we couldn't ever be in love with someone else. We deny ourselves natural, primal instincts in lieu of a facade representing eternal love.
I know that if I loved someone, and wanted them to be my partner, but they lived thousands of miles away and I wouldn't see them for years, that I wouldn't be offended or expect them to try and maintain the relationship if they wanted to see other people. I would encourage it, with a common acceptance between my (hopefully smart enough) girlfriend, that although we feel we are in love, there are in fact others with whom we could also be in love with, and additionally also have the benefit of being able to feel, and touch, and hold, and fuck.
The idea that there's one person for us and the second we think we've that one we have to do everything in our power to make it work, is a social construct and nothing more. It's self-deception. -
2017-07-17 at 7:55 PM UTCthis fred's getting a bit tl;dr all of a sudden.
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2017-07-17 at 7:56 PM UTC
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2017-07-17 at 7:59 PM UTCits ok tho, was just an observation.
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2017-07-17 at 8:42 PM UTC
Originally posted by mmQ n love" with the one person that is made for us. Our partner. Our lover.
no such thing.
if there is ... then it most probably be your little sister.
there's nothing that screams she's meant for you any louder than the very one fate, destiny, Gott, evolution, or any other higher beings of your choosing .... decided to ship to you, to your house, and thru the very same birth canal you used to get to this world, and into the next room.
but of cos incest is illegal. incest is illegal becos not everyone has a little sister and in a fit of rage, envy and jealousy .... these poor and unfortunate souls has made it illegal for us the fortunate to enjoy our fortunes. -
2017-07-17 at 8:45 PM UTC
Originally posted by mmQ Perhaps.
Here's my line of thinking on the matter, and it's much like how I view the idea of marriage , or even monogamy. This idea that we are destined to "fall in love" with the one person that is made for us. Our partner. Our lover.
We say things like, "she's the girl of my dreams, I'd never want to be with anyone else in a million years." Then get married, and dedicate each other to.. each other. Not allowed to be with another person for the rest of your life, lest you break the special and powerful vows that you made to one another.
But wait, why are divorce rates so high? Why are all these seemingly in love couples soon finding out that they aren't as happy as they think they are, that their partner isn't I'm fact the ONE AND ONLY person for them?
The idea of monogamy represents feelings of pride, and security, which is why we've bought into the ideals of marriage and not cheating, we feel important believing that we have somehow locked into the partner of our dreams, and that they feel the same way. We lie to convince ourselves we couldn't ever be in love with someone else. We deny ourselves natural, primal instincts in lieu of a facade representing eternal love.
I know that if I loved someone, and wanted them to be my partner, but they lived thousands of miles away and I wouldn't see them for years, that I wouldn't be offended or expect them to try and maintain the relationship if they wanted to see other people. I would encourage it, with a common acceptance between my (hopefully smart enough) girlfriend, that although we feel we are in love, there are in fact others with whom we could also be in love with, and additionally also have the benefit of being able to feel, and touch, and hold, and fuck.
The idea that there's one person for us and the second we think we've that one we have to do everything in our power to make it work, is a social construct and nothing more. It's self-deception.
Sure, I agree, but you don't have to believe that you are destined to spend your life with one person to believe that once you've met someone you are extremely compatible with that you want to be with them for the rest of your life. What you are describing definitely happens a lot, but I think that's more of a result of people convincing themselves that they HAVE found someone they want to be with forever when really they haven't, or they think that getting married will solve the problems in their relationship, or they think that getting married is the logical next step to having a fulfilling life because they were never able to think for themselves, or some other reason. -
2017-07-17 at 8:45 PM UTC
Originally posted by benny vader no such thing.
if there is … then it most probably be your little sister.
there's nothing that screams she's meant for you any louder than the very one fate, destiny, Gott, evolution, or any other higher beings of your choosing …. decided to ship to you, to your house, and thru the very same birth canal you used to get to this world, and into the next room.
but of cos incest is illegal. incest is illegal becos not everyone has a little sister and in a fit of rage, envy and jealousy …. these poor and unfortunate souls has made it illegal for us the fortunate to enjoy our fortunes.
Right......
*turns facing away from you*
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2017-07-17 at 11:48 PM UTCIt becomes do-able as soon as I'm done being needed for daily shit for my dad. He will be having surgery sometime soon, and I won't have to do anything for him daily anymore. At that point I will likely move, if not I'll get a full time job here and save for 3 months or so then move so I can rent my own place there. I've went there to stay for a month at a time in the past, so I'm not worried about how life would be different living together, but I do need to live somewhere my dog has a yard and space to run. He's wild af.
Idk why y'all are all so against this. Obviously it's been extremely successful the past like ten fuckin years... What's the big deal? Yeah, it's not for everyone... but we both know the other is who we want to be with even if that means waiting... and neither of us lack the willpower to not fuck whoever else just because we are horny or want someone to be close to. I'm a fucking aspie, idk if he is, but we are on the same page and have very similar types of preferred communication techniques.
Y'all mad cuz I found someone serious? It'll be a totse wedding... and by that I mean just us and Elvis in Las Vegas whenever lol. He doesn't post here though, some people grow up, I don't though, I don't know why he likes me LOL -
2017-07-17 at 11:53 PM UTCI hope you don't break up 3 months after moving in with each other.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2017-07-17 at 11:59 PM UTC
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2017-07-18 at 12 AM UTCBut I wish you well kinko. My speech wasn't about you, persay, but the idea of monogamous relationships.
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2017-07-18 at 12:08 AM UTC
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2017-07-18 at 12:12 AM UTC
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2017-07-18 at 12:13 AM UTCThey can just keep milking themselves indefinitely.
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2017-07-18 at 2:35 AM UTCNah that won't happen. We are the kind of ppl who would live in separate ends of the house in our own areas but eat together n sleep together lol
The one good thing about long distance relationships over immense amounts of time is you discuss pretty much everything.. and we are both the kind of ppl who just say what we want.. none of the guessing games shit.. I can't deal with people who expect me to know or do shit on certain days. He fully accepts he can tell me something one day and I'll forget it ever happened the next day.. like I said idk how he could like me or put up with me lol -
2017-07-18 at 2:47 AM UTC^ That would totally be my ideal arrangement. A two story house that's split in two, with shared common areas if we desire company.
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2017-07-18 at 2:54 AM UTCYep. Perfect lifestyle. I'm soundproofing the fuck out of my area.
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2017-07-18 at 2:12 PM UTC
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2017-07-20 at 2:04 AM UTCI went 2 weeks this month and it was awful
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2017-07-20 at 7:15 AM UTC
