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2022-05-27 at 4:10 PM UTC.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2022-05-27 at 4:13 PM UTC.
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2022-05-27 at 4:28 PM UTCIf you care about what others think of you, then you have way more problems than just a lack of self awareness.
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2022-05-27 at 5:18 PM UTC
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2022-05-27 at 5:27 PM UTC
Originally posted by ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Quite the opposite.
When you care about your loved ones they are less likely to feel isolated and disconnected...so no, it's not the opposite. Most of the school shooter types are isolated/disconnected loners who were bullied and/or couldn't get some poon because everyone thought they were weirdos.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2022-05-27 at 6:25 PM UTC
Originally posted by Kafka It’s like if you believe other people view you as something, then you’ll subconsciously start to act that way.
That's big with females, hence why alot of pimps call their escorts by a "nomme de ho" to reinforce an identity. Also gangs. People can say that what others think/overtly perceive them as doesn't matter but it definitely affects how someone views themselves.
I definitely agree it can become a self fulfilling prophecy, usually when the self talk isn't constructive. I'm honestly my biggest gaslighter for sure, mostly because when I'm manic it's hard to reconcile my thoughts and behaviors afterwards.
But yeah, suppressing things is almost never good (outside of firearms) and the most utility I get from this website is bold faced emotional honesty. One of the appeals is not having to worry about how things are perceived and having my words reconciled with someone's idea that they have of me in their head. Although that obviously doesn't matter in itself to me, it can have consequences. Hence the appeal of therapy and AA meetings -
2022-05-27 at 6:29 PM UTC.
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2022-05-27 at 6:31 PM UTC.
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2022-05-27 at 6:35 PM UTC
Originally posted by Kafka That’s a bit sexist
Well I was more relating it to the criminal subculture because that's my reference point but when I was in prison/more in da skreetz I had a nickname and found it definitely helps you disassociate from other identities with traits that don't gel with the ones others are trying to reinforce. I guess if we were all theater majors I could type about how character actors assume character traits but all I really know is scummyness because da skreetz razed me -
2022-05-27 at 6:47 PM UTC
Originally posted by Jiggaboo_Johnson When you care about your loved ones they are less likely to feel isolated and disconnected…so no, it's not the opposite. Most of the school shooter types are isolated/disconnected loners who were bullied and/or couldn't get some poon because everyone thought they were weirdos.
is that what fox news told you, -
2022-05-27 at 7:22 PM UTC
Originally posted by Jiggaboo_Johnson When you care about your loved ones they are less likely to feel isolated and disconnected…so no, it's not the opposite. Most of the school shooter types are isolated/disconnected loners who were bullied and/or couldn't get some poon because everyone thought they were weirdos.
Caring about loved ones is not the same as caring what they think of you. -
2022-05-27 at 8:18 PM UTC
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2022-05-27 at 8:38 PM UTC
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2022-05-27 at 8:42 PM UTC
Originally posted by ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Which brings me back to my original statement: if you care what people think about you, you have a lot more of a problem than just autism.
Which brings me back to my point...having people you care about isn't a problem, not having people you care about is..everyone at some point needs "backup"..and again, it's always the isolated loners who end up being the "problems"The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2022-05-27 at 8:44 PM UTC
Originally posted by Jiggaboo_Johnson Which brings me back to my point…having people you care about isn't a problem, not having people you care about is..everyone at some point needs "backup"..and again, it's always the isolated loners who end up being the "problems"
I think you're confused about the definition of "caring". -
2022-05-27 at 8:45 PM UTC
