1. Good hygiene. Deal breaker.
2. Feminist. This is to do with respect. When a man doesn't think to ask my advice or opinions, or doesn't share his interests because he thinks I won't understand complex topics, or can't fathom that I may be more intelligent than him then I will feel stifled. Deal breaker.
3. Preferably autistic or a neurotypical with an IQ within 15 points of mine higher or lower. Mine is 121.
4. Preferably has a psychopathic streak. Not a narcissist or a sociopath, and not a full-blown psychopath because I want them to also have emotions and interests and not be apathetic. It would be good for someone to accept this side of me and I believe it gives people a certain strength.
5. Into BDSM but only in the bedroom and not every time we have sex. Also up for trying new things.
6. Doesn't view me as a sugar mommy or expects me to baby him most of the time. This is a big turn-off.
7. Preferably works in STEM. This is for financial security and because all girls want a man like their dad, mine was an engineer. Note that engineering is the most autistic profession.
8. Can take care of me financially but I don't want this to be the norm. I will always want my own career and money but there may be times when I'm too ill to work.
9. Reads literature.
10. No pet dogs. Deal breaker.
11. I would prefer that they need alone time as well or to sleep alone at times. Actually I'd prefer to have my own bedroom but I've never lived with a partner before so this could change.
12. Likes to buy me things. I understand if they can't because of money issues. My dad spoiled me and my mum never gave me anything so I feel unloved when someone doesn't buy me things and this won't change. Gifts are my love language. Deal breaker.
13. Isn't stingy or frugal but they need to save money.
14. Like my dad. This person can't have a psycho streak so it's one or the other. My dad was generous, respectful of women and the type of person to stick up for strangers/call out wrongdoings without fear. He had strength of character but wasn't religious. He was kind, a hardworker, ambitious, friendly and a bit eccentric.
15. No face tattoos, long beards, ponytails.
16. Taller than me. I am 5'6.
17. Not obese. I am fine with chubby, anorexic or normal. No steroids bodies. I prefer someone who isn't obsessed with lifting weights or their appearance, it's a sign of fragility.
18. 6-8 inch dick.
19. Bonus points if they let me decorate most of the house.
20. White. Preferably German, Nordic or Irish/Scottish. Not a Saxon/English.
21. Happy to have children by surrogate mother and doesn't try to pressure me to become pregnant. Deal breaker.
22. Shared housechores.
23. I'm used to feeding myself and cleaning up after myself, I may want to eat more takeaway than my partner and can see this trend continuing because there's more freedom, but I've never lived with a partner so this could possibly change.
24. Accepts that I may exhibit "masculine" traits at times and still loves me. Jung said every relationship is between four people, that men have a feminine psych and vice versa.
25. Understands that trying to oppress me will exacerbate my aggressive traits.
26. Is willing to be my alarm clock on important days.
27. My wardrobe has a split personality but I am fine with my partner choosing what I wear when I am in their world meeting their friends etc, but I will wear what I want in my world.
28. Is fine with me being a coke addict and if there are children involved use will only be reduced, not stopped. Doesn't try to control my use of drugs.
29. Is fine with me going abroad by myself.
30. Doesn't cheat. If this happens they must be fine with me also seeing others. They also have to buy me something expensive if they cheat. There won't be an open relationship when married, no bringing people home. It is unlikely for me to cheat but I may emotionally cheat so I don't feel victimised.
31. Is okay with it being an open relationship until engagement. This is because people can leave me after a few years and I don't have a lot of time to find Mr. Right. Though it is unlikely this will manifest as I'm so picky when it comes to partners.
32. Not afraid of showing emotions but there's a fine line here because if they're emotional about something dumb it can be a turn-off. I don't want to be with a rock or someone with toxic masculinity. If unsure it's fine to cry and be comforted without saying why you're crying. I don't want to be with someone who never cries.
33. Understands that sometimes women want hugs when they're upset instead of solutions, so ask what they need.
34. Not a football hoodlum or at least doesn't expect me to watch it with them or go to matches. Football shirts are a turn-off.
35. I can be attracted to people who dress differently but would prefer to be married to someone who dresses well or with cottagecore fashion.
36. Is okay with cuddling not always leading to sex and if it does I want to be cuddled for at least half an hour without groping.
37. I am a creature of routine and while am usually into spontaneous sex early in a relationship it will likely become routine, though this does mean there can be a lot of it, it will be at the same times.
38. Most compatible zodiac signs: Libra, Aquarius, Aries, Capricorn and Taurus. No Gemini, Leo or Pisces.
39. Remembers Valentine's Day. I'm not fussed about anniversaries but will make an effort if it matters to my partner. I won't remember how many months we've been together. Also not fussed with Mother or Father's Day, too many dates to remember and there should be exchanging gifts throughout the year anyway.
40. No more than two children and they will have to be via surrogate mother.
41. I'm not making coffee in the morning and don't expect that from my partner.
42. Regarding affection: Gifts, cuddles and sweet words are all I think I need. I will probably have a hard time thinking of romantic things to do for my partner. I suppose there's fear that men only make romantic gestures early in the relationships and it won't last after marriage, so that won't win me over. It will seem too good to be true.
43. Is fine with my age regression. This will manifest as me playing with childhood toys or reading fairy books when stressed and in privacy so it shouldn't affect anyone.
44. Leaves me alone when I say I have information overload or if in public tries to take me to a quiet place immediately.
45. I will always be misunderstood and dislike that my unpredictability can scare people but sometimes I can't explain myself either because it's painful or I don't understand myself, so it is best to just observe me for awhile.
46. I believe partners should maintain a united front and not disagree or insult each other in public or even with relatives present.
47. Doesn't expect me not to have male friends because I have bad luck finding female ones and it will likely just be a mopey/neurotic venting friendship. I am very quiet and reticent irl. Though since I've always been alone irl I may not need an online friend anymore. I may also have a career mentor friend that's male.
48. Childcare: I can't be relied upon to do the majority of this with my autism. Even with Loop earplugs for noise sensitivity I can snap. The liklihood of this can be reduced in ways but it should be taken into account. Light unexpected touches sting me so I can't have a toddler slapping me.
49. Regarding religion: I won't be converting to anything and would prefer to be with someone who is agnostic or an atheist. If partner insists that our child be taught religious material I will make sure they know it is just stories, I will never tell them it is true, and they will not be exposed to it before the age of 12. I also won't tolerate religious items where I can see them. I don't want to be faced with subliminal messages/affirmations daily.
50. Love. There are three types; Romantic, parental and friendship. Sadly people often treat their friends better than their partners and no one will love me as much as my dad did. Ideally I'd like all three types of love to be present.
51. Manners. People often treat strangers with more respect than they do their family. This should be the opposite.
52. Doesn't complain about my use of Botox/fillers. I am the one paying for it and the only reason people find me attractive is because I've already had it. You say I don't need it because I already have it in my face.
53. Not an alcoholic.
54. Regarding parenting. I am more like a teacher than a mother but very protective. So ideally I'd like to be with someone who can emotionally nurture a child.
55. Bonus points if they know the meanings of flowers.
56. Doesn't mistake my serial killer vibes when I have PMS as mental health issues.
57. Politically centre-right.
58. Someone I can learn from.
59. Can sit in silence with me.
--- I'm not actually looking for someone in this hell-hole but am curious what your reactions are.
