Losing a love

1. 2015-12-27 at 1:07 AM UTC

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   kroz weak whyte, frothy cuck, and former twink
   Over the summer I met a girl I at first didnt like. She liked my cat and I had sex with her, We kept meeting up. She was 10 year older than me but fucking sexy. She told me the second time we met up that she was going back to DC to teach english and be on cupcake wars. I just didnt know I would end up liking her so much we went and did things together. We have text a few time since she left in september. But I still think about her often. Has anyone else gone through this before? We saw eachother for almost 3 months and nothing was ever bad. I actually cared about her.
   
   
2. 2015-12-27 at 4:45 AM UTC

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   mmQ Lisa Turtle
   You've both had a bunch of sex and partners since she moved away. You didn't even try to make a long-distance relationship work for a fucking DAY. She's not as important as you think she is, and neither are you. ;)
3. 2015-12-27 at 5:18 AM UTC

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   The Self Taught Man Black Hole

   You've both had a bunch of sex and partners since she moved away. You didn't even try to make a long-distance relationship work for a fucking DAY. She's not as important as you think she is, and neither are you. ;)

   
   this
4. 2015-12-27 at 6:16 AM UTC

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   J J The Jet Plane Yung Blood
   I wouldn't ask for advice for shit like this in niggasin.space. Yes, I've been through stuff like this. It sucks. You'll meet someone new after a while and forget about her. Otherwise, try to stay in touch and see her when one of you are in town in the other's city. Who knows where life will take you. One day you may end up both getting a job in the same town.
5. 2015-12-27 at 6:54 AM UTC

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   kroz weak whyte, frothy cuck, and former twink
   ^thanks I appreciate that. I probably shouldnt have made this post, but I think about her often despite knowing the truth of the situation.
6. 2015-12-27 at 7:01 AM UTC

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   kroz weak whyte, frothy cuck, and former twink

   You've both had a bunch of sex and partners since she moved away. You didn't even try to make a long-distance relationship work for a fucking DAY. She's not as important as you think she is, and neither are you. ;)

   
   
   maybe you're right. I guess maybe I just enjoyed the time we spent together and I felt like there was potential for her and I had she not be moving. when I knew her , she never failed me. I think i Just get upset when something feels good to me and it doesnt work out the way I wanted it to.
   
   I deleted her number several times after she moved, but she just keeps texting me back to ask how I'm doing and it just makes my heart swell. The morning after the night I met her, after she left, I dreamt about her and I woke up thinking about her and I've just never stopped thinking about her since. I liked how smart, attractive, mature, and cool she was.
   
   I know it sounds petty but if i can't just have a few drinks do a line and cuddle up with the girl I love then life just isn't worth living.
7. 2015-12-27 at 9:49 PM UTC

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   RestStop Space Nigga
   There comes a point where dating and trying to make something of a romantic life just becomes a wasteful effort. If you have enough negative experiences and they outweigh the good ones by an astonishing amount it's past due to change your approach. I'm in the same position myself but I'm the one moving around late spring/early summer and really have a really great girl but know it's just going to end up me being unhappy...probably her as well. It seems like you're making a valiant effort to get over her by not engaging her and deleting the number and so on. I'm the last person on here you should be getting romantic advice from but if it were me I would just let the idea of being with her go. Talk to her sure, be friends even hang out when she's in town or whatever but I would just leave it at that unless of course you plan on relocating clear to DC but that's a whole other topic in itself.
8. 2015-12-28 at 2:24 AM UTC

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   Lanny Bird of Courage

   Has anyone else gone through this before?

   
   What, long distance relationships or still caring about someone who you decided not to do the long distance thing with? No to the former, yes to the latter. I was dating a gal when it came time for us to ship out to college. Thankfully we got accepted to exactly 0 of the same colleges, mostly because she wanted to go to the east coast and I was too poor to pay out of state tuition. We agreed not seeing anyone else for 4 years wasn't really going to happen and ended it on good terms but I was kinda bummed about it for a while, spent the summer traveling up to washington and back camping, felt like a good way to work it out. You get over it. See her again in a few years and you'll find you created an ideal image from memories that doesn't match reality, she's probably not all that.
   
   What do you do in the interim? Tough it out I guess, or drink/smoke/snort it out of your mind. Time heals all wounds and all that.
9. 2019-05-06 at 9:24 PM UTC

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   We'reAllBrownNosers African Astronaut
   Love is just hormones/neurons, and something that can be used against you.
10. 2019-05-06 at 9:34 PM UTC

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    Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country Dark Matter [my scoffingly uncritical tinning]

    Originally posted by Bill Krozby She liked my cat and I had sex with her

    
    Living close to the city I guess your rent implicitly includes benefits such as getting to fuck all these bitches.
    
    I'm trying to talk myself into paying all this money over for this bullshit.
11. 2019-05-06 at 9:36 PM UTC

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    Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country Dark Matter [my scoffingly uncritical tinning]
    I wonder if my Nigerian diplomat GF still has her swanky apartment. Pretty sure she's still single.
12. 2019-05-06 at 9:37 PM UTC

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    Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country Dark Matter [my scoffingly uncritical tinning]
    I'm working in the city she did, and earning as much as she did, so maybe I still have a shot?