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I have too much social anxiety to tell random women on the street they look beautiful
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2019-09-29 at 4:04 AM UTC
Originally posted by Technologist Don’t take it personally if they blow you off, or say no. You very well could be dodging a bullet.
When I was on the dating site, I’d get guys in my inbox telling me how beautiful I was, bla bla bla. If I turned ‘em down, they’d write a nasty fuckin message back telling me what a piece of shit I was. I’d think to myself, “hum 5 mins ago I was soooo beautiful”. From there on out I knew he was a flake.
You cannot take it personal, especially from a stranger. They could be having a horrible day. A family member could have died, (insert anything that puts us in a bad mood), you just don’t know what’s up, especially with a stranger.
I somewhat did that once but I was on benzos and it wasn't really that bad.
We've seen how sploo treats women. And even in this thread alone, all he wants is sex. Women would be right to avoid him. -
2019-09-29 at 4:24 AM UTC
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2019-09-29 at 4:33 AM UTCI was behind a really cute short blonde a week ago and she was fixing her braids, she had the top of each braid pulled up and it was already perfect so I leaned in and wispered its perfect just the way it is and she spun around and started showing me pic's from her phone of a mock wedding she was part of,, dingy bitch thought I was peepin on her phone in line.
thats the only woman Ive said anything to in public in a long time, she kinda freaked me out by how friendly she was -
2019-09-29 at 4:35 AM UTCFrumbob, I recognize your plight as I find myself in a similar predicament.
I mean, like others have said, you don't want to just go and tell rando chicks you see in public that they're beautiful.
That's so autistic even to me.
But I actually do get it. I have to drink copious amounts of alcohol just to be able to say "hi" to a woman...
Sometimes it actually works. I've actually managed to sleep with complete strangers before.
But most of the time they just make some comment about how I'm a socially awkward fucktard and should probably jump off of a bridge for the sake of humanity at large.
Well, that last bit was a tad embellished for dramatic effect, but I'm sure you get the idea.
Apparantly we neuro-atypical types are just stuck playing the dating game on hard mode. -
2019-09-29 at 4:51 AM UTC
Originally posted by gadzooks Frumbob, I recognize your plight as I find myself in a similar predicament.
I mean, like others have said, you don't want to just go and tell rando chicks you see in public that they're beautiful.
That's so autistic even to me.
But I actually do get it. I have to drink copious amounts of alcohol just to be able to say "hi" to a woman…
Sometimes it actually works. I've actually managed to sleep with complete strangers before.
But most of the time they just make some comment about how I'm a socially awkward fucktard and should probably jump off of a bridge for the sake of humanity at large.
Well, that last bit was a tad embellished for dramatic effect, but I'm sure you get the idea.
Apparantly we neuro-atypical types are just stuck playing the dating game on hard mode.
It helps if you stop drinking and doing drugs.
I stopped smoking weed and basically all of my anxiety went away
I stopped drinking (mostly) and I learned to deal with baseline normality
It's pretty great. I still wouldn't approach some random girl and tell her she's pretty but I can strike up conversation no problem unless the girl is like stunningly model gorgeous then it's terrifying. I kind of hate talking to overtly beautiful people in general. They gotta have at least some flaw -
2019-09-29 at 2 PM UTC„They always receive it well, usually blush, act flattered and say thank you and sometimes, just sometimes, you can pursue and accrue some digits.”
Being a patronizing bitch wont give you shit with them or in life bro. And those digits they gave you were fake numbers anyway. -
2019-09-29 at 2:02 PM UTC
Originally posted by frumbob 🐎🦄🐈🐯🐷🦊 the thing is it doesn't actually matter if it works, the worst that can happen really is rejection and that's only a problem because i can't detach myself from the feeling of embarrassment it would cause me to take personally. in reality if i do this 100 times i'll maybe get a fuck out of it and there is no negative repercussion
With young girls its tough though like barely legal teens in european countries because they tend to get quiet snd turna way and make you feel stupid for even trying even though one of them clearly fancied you or kept smiling and even waved at you the first time you walked by. -
2019-09-29 at 2:04 PM UTC
Originally posted by Wariat With young girls its tough though like barely legal teens in european countries because they tend tog et wuiet snd turna way and make you feels tupid for even trying even though one of them clewrly fsncied you or kept smiling snd even waved at you the first time you walked by.
are you having a stroke?The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2019-09-29 at 2:05 PM UTCWhen you are so deprived of sexual attention it causes brain damageThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
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2019-09-29 at 2:28 PM UTCOP quit fucking spics and niggers.
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2019-09-29 at 2:31 PM UTC
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2019-09-30 at 11:52 PM UTCToday I met a strawberry blonde girl, she lives at the house I'm painting a room in,, she's one of those soft girls that got like a 1/2 to 3/4 inch of fat all over with a plump fine ass and proper tittys even tho I expect they are kinda floppy,, its been 6 or 7 years since Ive felt a woman so this girl with the big blue eyes and sweet disposition really made my naughty bits stir AND she was really friendly and talkative,, we talked for a half hr in the afternoon and then for 2 hours after I got done painting,, I'm gonna see if I can get her to join up here
NOT!!!
I'm going to see if we can swap numbers tomorrow.
I gotta go trim a Bruce Banner plant,, the work never ends -
2019-10-01 at 1:12 AM UTCI dunno. I feel bad about my body and until I get into better shape I don't have much ambition to get out there because I have low confidence. So until that happens I'm not really bothering pursuing it I guess, which is why I contemplate hookers but I broke my penis for the third time (I'm guessing) so that doesn't help things.
I haven't spent much 1 on 1 time with girls lately, which is what is what college is great for allegedly but I don't know how to get girl from classroom to bedroom as of yet, it was waaaay easier back when I had labs in freshman year or went to all the same classes with everybody in nursing school, but I don't live there or go to any clubs yet so I'm not getting much headway, especially since I don't drink so don't go to bars.
I could lower my standards but I'm not doing that, I'd rather have nothing. I don't have much of a sex drive either, let's see how much of that was tramadol now, I remember being very very horny when first getting sober then it kinda went away.
This is why dropping out of high school was a bad idea for you. -
2019-10-01 at 1:37 AM UTCI broke my dick once, sometimes when its gettin hard it stays skinny in the middle till the rest swells up then it gets hard also.. it looks weird when its doin its thing but normal after its full blowed
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2019-10-01 at 2:05 AM UTC
Originally posted by mmQ Its obviously unorthodox but I do have to say there are a good number of times in my life (many but certainly not all while I was intoxicated) where I passed a girl/lady/woman/female/grandma and found her so pretty that I had to say something which was just basically along the lines of "hey… excuse me sorry sorry sorry (always apologize three times like that) say I just HAD to stop you to let you know I think you might be one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. And I just needed to tell you that." Carry on. *sheepish smile*
They always receive it well, usually blush, act flattered and say thank you and sometimes, just sometimes, you can pursue and accrue some digits.
This OP and peedy are pretty inept and don't know about acting natural (peedy just made a post about how he's a huge democract and suspects all ethinic people of thinking he's literally trump, sploo thinks everyone thinks he's literally bundy)
Everyone fears something and these things are at "their" core. I told a nurse the other day that (she had really nice mocha skin and dread locks that obviously took a long to grow out) and I told her with a smile on my face I don't want this sound weird but but I really like your hair, and she glowed up and said "thats not weird at all thats really sweet of you it took me a long to get to this point and after that we're friends now.
I mean it would be weird if you're a creeper standing 50 feet away and be like "I like ur skin!11" as if you're going skin her!
But also I can kinda understand in away where some women are afraid of their own shadow and you could just give them a head nod, acknowledging them while they are walking down the st and they will give you a look like "SICK FREAK LEAVE ME ALONE!" who knows maybe they get the shit beat out of them by their bf's for talking other guys, you never know. someone just have perpetual bitchhole face. But who cares thats on them not you.
Peedy and op lack nuance. Girls like guys that are fun and flirty and come off as genuine. I can turn it full retard on purpose and purposely be creepy just because I smeel their fear and like to see how people tick.
But then again all the iq test in world wouldn't make OP cool or intelligent if he doesn't have emotional intelligence. But then again I'm a Jungian analyst and not a scientist.The following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire! -
2019-10-01 at 2:11 AM UTCthank you Bill Krozby
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2019-10-01 at 2:21 AM UTC
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2019-10-01 at 2:26 AM UTC
Originally posted by 8stringflinG Maybe don't tell random women they look good, because that's not how you hit on girls, it's how you creep on them. Just talk to them like a normal fucking human being, and in settings where that shit is normal. Not 'on the street'.
God what are you 15
you're kinda half right, but also you're kind of gaylord that doesn't know what you're talking about, you should stick braiding mens hair and reading sonnets down by the botanical springsThe following users say it would be alright if the author of this post didn't die in a fire!
