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I'm 35, and tbh I am being bullied at work.
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2019-07-07 at 3:30 PM UTC
Originally posted by Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country Well I started, and they were established. I am their manager, they are my report. That only makes it more awkward to address, but TBH, if it was the other way around, my life would be shit. They are established, know everyone, know how the company works, and quite aggressive. They are a PA to some important people, and name drop constantly - this has lead to MY manager being intimidated. They are a person of, imo, low moral standards, and I will be saying so to senior management on monday, and luckily I can easily go outside the organisation due to certain things this person has said against themselves. They have made various verbal allegations against me, however I demanded these allegations in writing, and they promptly disappeared. I was (verbally) discouraged from pursuing a resolution to these allegations.
There is a very large gap between the verbal and written record within my organisation.
I have honestly disengaged with my persecutor, and played it day by day, as my job involves a lot of coding, and no one else in my job can do that besides me. I suspect they are widely hated, and only tolerated due to their perceived (bluffed) utility to the senior management team within the organisation.
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2019-07-07 at 3:31 PM UTC
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2019-07-07 at 4:24 PM UTCjust fire the ringleader
also..
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2019-07-07 at 5:41 PM UTCGrab one by the throat, drag him out to a back room, pin his neck to the floor with your knee, and then say, "I really want you to like me. Is that going to be a problem?" as you're squeezing down with your leg.
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2019-07-07 at 5:44 PM UTC
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2019-07-07 at 6:18 PM UTCSpectraL???
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2019-07-07 at 7:30 PM UTCFolks?
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2019-07-07 at 8:49 PM UTCI'd love nothing more than to relish in OP's misery but his honesty it commendable somewhat although the reasons for his colleague's actions are not questionable.
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2019-07-07 at 9:26 PM UTC
Originally posted by Octavian I'd love nothing more than to relish in OP's misery but his honesty it commendable somewhat although the reasons for his colleague's actions are not questionable.
Anonymous forum, why do I care? And I never pretended to be perfect.
I'm not assertive at all, so I make a poor leader and interact badly with others. That is something I need to work on. -
2019-07-07 at 9:42 PM UTC
Originally posted by Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country Anonymous forum, why do I care? And I never pretended to be perfect.
I'm not assertive at all, so I make a poor leader and interact badly with others. That is something I need to work on.
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2019-07-07 at 9:44 PM UTCAspergers plus social isolation. I'm nerdy and don't like dealing with people.
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2019-07-07 at 9:45 PM UTCI'm starting to think I'm an Asparagus too somewhat.
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2019-07-07 at 9:50 PM UTCI think it's mostly social isolation. I live in the countryside, never interacted much with others growing up, had depression, then cancer, and lots of years recovery in more or less seclusion. So as much as anything I'm simply not used to being around or dealing with people who aren't family, and have no idea how to deal with the pure assholes you run into all the time in the real world.
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2019-07-07 at 9:58 PM UTC
Originally posted by Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country I think it's mostly social isolation. I live in the countryside, never interacted much with others growing up, had depression, then cancer, and lots of years recovery in more or less seclusion. So as much as anything I'm simply not used to being around or dealing with people who aren't family, and have no idea how to deal with the pure assholes you run into all the time in the real world.
Yeah I grew up in a village, had my parents not divorced and I moved to a town I would most likely be dead from boredom/ suicide. Social isolation can suck but I'm a social butterfly at heart. I've found myself in intermittant periods alone such as this weekend but only out of choice/ necessity.
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2019-07-08 at 1:35 AM UTC
Originally posted by -SpectraL He's being disrespected and pushed around by his own underlings, said underlings being of value to the company, so he's decided to attempt redress by appealing to the upper echelons.
I love the way you articulated this. That was a beautiful paragraph, excellent syntax, and vocabulary, great clarity of speech, all done efficiently.