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love is really fucked up
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2015-12-22 at 3:17 PM UTCnot like in an emo way or anything i mean, its just that when you really think about it, relationships and love are really disgusting. there's two people who are vying for control over the other and the winner eventually gets bored of the other because as time goes on they are more and more confident that they will have that person there no matter what. then once the confidence reaches a certain level, they just use that leverage to hurt the other person on occasion or repeatedly.
i dont understand -
2015-12-22 at 8:41 PM UTCThats why I understand polygamy... why do you only have to love on person? Like If you had several kids you wouldn't only love just one.
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2015-12-22 at 10:01 PM UTC
not like in an emo way or anything i mean, its just that when you really think about it, relationships and love are really disgusting. there's two people who are vying for control over the other and the winner eventually gets bored of the other because as time goes on they are more and more confident that they will have that person there no matter what. then once the confidence reaches a certain level, they just use that leverage to hurt the other person on occasion or repeatedly.
i dont understand
I think the girls you must date do that. Do you do that yourself? I personally don't do that even if I do have more leverage. -
2015-12-23 at 1:12 AM UTCIt's sounds like you've had very unhealthy relationships.
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2015-12-23 at 4:42 AM UTC
It's sounds like you've had very unhealthy relationships.
who me or op? -
2015-12-23 at 8:40 AM UTCOP. Probably you too, though, at least a fair chunk of them.
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2015-12-23 at 12:48 PM UTC
I think the girls you must date do that. Do you do that yourself? I personally don't do that even if I do have more leverage.
its like half and half. if they dont get me, then i eventually get them no matter what.
not sure about the healthiness. i think everyones relationships are like this, isn't that why people always break up? it seems like the only ones who are legit married forever are either miserable or have just given up on life, or both -
2015-12-23 at 6:47 PM UTC
its like half and half. if they dont get me, then i eventually get them no matter what.
not sure about the healthiness. i think everyones relationships are like this, isn't that why people always break up? it seems like the only ones who are legit married forever are either miserable or have just given up on life, or both
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2015-12-24 at 1:09 AM UTCAnd that's why you don't date out of your league, obviously. It's simply too enticing for the other to seek out a better relationship. With that said, you must also compete with your other. To make sure you stay up to par and don't drift away.
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2015-12-24 at 4:37 AM UTCWhat you described is really foreign to me. Now, Ive had an unhealthy 10 year relationship, he probably was doing something like this, but what I always wanted was a partnership. I dont want to control anyone, nor be controlled, but I want to work together for the things in life we both want, and compromise when we dont agree. I see the partnership as fulfilling two roles; 1.) You can accomplish nore together than apart. 2.) Companionship and nurturing. Both people should enjoy each other enough to go with it, and genuinely enjoy their time together, and both people should positively support and encourage each other through tough times, with projects the other may be working on, and help them accomplish things they may need help with. Maybe this is an idealistic view but that is what a healthy relationship should be.
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2015-12-24 at 10:01 AM UTC
What you described is really foreign to me. Now, Ive had an unhealthy 10 year relationship, he probably was doing something like this, but what I always wanted was a partnership. I dont want to control anyone, nor be controlled, but I want to work together for the things in life we both want, and compromise when we dont agree. I see the partnership as fulfilling two roles; 1.) You can accomplish nore together than apart. 2.) Companionship and nurturing. Both people should enjoy each other enough to go with it, and genuinely enjoy their time together, and both people should positively support and encourage each other through tough times, with projects the other may be working on, and help them accomplish things they may need help with. Maybe this is an idealistic view but that is what a healthy relationship should be.
That shouldn't be idealistic, unrealistic, at all. It sad that most people are so undeveloped they never reach the point where this is realistic for them. -
2015-12-24 at 1:13 PM UTCLove IS fucked up.
I loathe how complicated it is.
Like there's this girl (20's lol) shes pretty awesome in everyway....except in the looks dept. I have come to realize I am much more shallow than I previously thought.
Otherwise, I wouldn't mind being with an ok-looking chick.
Obviously I go for and get good looking ones because it'll make me look good and two good looking people, will produce good looking offspring. ...You know... just in case.
I think it'd be hit or miss otherwise. One good looking parent and one not, makes it a gamble on whether or not the offspring is gonna be good looking.
Although I have seen some crazy fucking miracles, like...HOLY SHIT....THAT came from YOU TWO!?!? lol Unless shes adopted, and then the husbands probably beating his dick to, or fucking, the daughter, instead of his wife. lol -
2015-12-24 at 7:31 PM UTCIf your relationships are anywhere near this level of fucked up then just opt out of them all together....I don't have much else to say.
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2015-12-24 at 8:54 PM UTC
not like in an emo way or anything i mean, its just that when you really think about it, relationships and love are really disgusting. there's two people who are vying for control over the other and the winner eventually gets bored of the other because as time goes on they are more and more confident that they will have that person there no matter what. then once the confidence reaches a certain level, they just use that leverage to hurt the other person on occasion or repeatedly.
i dont understand
Yeah, dude.... just stop. lol
No relatuonship is ever perfect. The sooner you realize it the better. -
2015-12-24 at 11:44 PM UTC
That shouldn't be idealistic, unrealistic, at all. It sad that most people are so undeveloped they never reach the point where this is realistic for them.
don't you just sit at home and not talk to anyone? -
2015-12-25 at 1:05 AM UTC
don't you just sit at home and not talk to anyone?
Yeah, I'm currently crippled. Is the world out there really that bad? Or if you're referring to development, is it really so difficult to change your behavior, to hold yourself and adhere to a higher standard? -
2015-12-25 at 3:33 PM UTC
Yeah, I'm currently crippled. Is the world out there really that bad? Or if you're referring to development, is it really so difficult to change your behavior, to hold yourself and adhere to a higher standard?
i didnt know you were crippled, i thought you imposed isolation on yourself because you were sick of everyone and their pettiness or some shit.
i really dont understand everyones comments in this thread. it seems like you guys all have loving perfect relationships, but i know im not the most fucked up person on this website by a longshot. i dont think its impossible for an ideal relationship to exist, but i think a lot of you are just not seeing the things that im talking about in your own relationships. -
2015-12-26 at 2:51 AM UTCEither you find a fuckin smokin hot dumb cunt, that will give you more problems, than you want.
...Or...
You find one with looks that are just ok, but her personality is better and she'll give you less problems.
[SIZE=14px]Pick your poison.[/SIZE] -
2015-12-26 at 4:33 AM UTC
i really dont understand everyones comments in this thread. it seems like you guys all have loving perfect relationships, but i know im not the most fucked up person on this website by a longshot. i dont think its impossible for an ideal relationship to exist, but i think a lot of you are just not seeing the things that im talking about in your own relationships.
What do you look for in people? What kind do you tend to attract? Assortative mating is a reality, so if you aren't a x/10s, in terms of personality, will generally attract similar people.not like in an emo way or anything i mean, its just that when you really think about it, relationships and love are really disgusting. there's two people who are vying for control over the other and the winner eventually gets bored of the other because as time goes on they are more and more confident that they will have that person there no matter what. then once the confidence reaches a certain level, they just use that leverage to hurt the other person on occasion or repeatedly.
Do you do the same thing yourself or do you hold yourself to a higher standard? Unfortunately it's common to be in a position in life where the kind of people you'd like, your ideal partner, may be out of reach. For those in their late teens and early 20s, a good university environment is usually the best choice. Although there are plenty of other ways to find like minded people. Just think, where would you find the right person for you? Where may the go, frequent, IRL or online? OK Cupid can also be a good choice, if you set up a profile properly (have some class, be sincere and forthright about what you desire, the things that really matter to you). It can take time, but the results can be very good, contrary to the negative perceptions many may have, the preconceived notions. In the book The Defining Decade the author noted that a very high proportion of the couples she met who seemed unusually well suited for each other had met online. When utilized properly, it can be a highly effective medium for finding the right person for you, and they could be from all over the world if it's a very rare fortunate instance of what would commonly be described, regardless of the inanity of the concept, as "soulmates", if you're willing to put the effort in to make it work, to at least meet up. -
2015-12-26 at 6:10 AM UTCdidn't read
