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2024-12-08 at 2:16 AM UTC
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2024-12-08 at 9:39 AM UTC
Hi there, I really wish I didn't have to make this post but…here goes.
So me and my husband have been happily married for about 16 years give or take. We both have stable careers, good family life and are fairly fortunate despite the cost of living racking the UK right now. We have two boys (15 and 10) and up until this Sunday, thought we had it pretty good. We argue sometimes of course but never gotten too bad and we have a pretty decent sex life with some exploration but I won't get into that.
Long and short is, on Sunday, just after I dropped our boys off at their friends, my husband asked me if we had the house alone and more importantly, do I have a minute. I said yes and he sat me down then got out this printed poster for some sort of orgy and started explaining to me the concept of a 'gaycation'.
How it's where straight men go to somewhere with "sun, sand and booze" and "become gay" for the duration of the trip but that's fine because it doesn't actually count, because "what happens on the gaycation, stays on the gaycation". I was just completely silent and mortified, even moreso when he said he was looking into booking a trip to Ibiza next year with his BIL (his sister's husband) to experience it for himself.
When he finally let me speak I just said, I need him to be clear with me, is he gay? Because if yes, that's "okay" but we need to figure out what happens going forward. I didn't let myself get angry or upset, I was just…stunned. He swore up and down how he's not gay and he's 100% attracted to women and of course still loves me and our boys. So I said well do you think you're bi maybe and he got very defensive, saying how I need to drop the accusations and that this is the beauty of the gaycation, it allows straight men to "experience" gayness without actually being gay and how it's like going to an aquarium???
And again he was adamant he doesn't find men's bodies or genitalia exciting at all, but he needs to experience this apparently. I said well I'm really not comfortable because even if he was bi, this would be explicitly cheating on me and he got angry and reiterated he's not, because "that's the beauty of the gaycation" etc. I just had enough and left the room.
I ignored him for the rest of the day but we spoke at tea where I again asked him, why does he want to do this so bad if he's not gay? He said how he's interested in how gay men's live differ to straight men's and that unfortunately, once the gaycation begins, it's simply impossible for a man to resist and he must "surrender himself mind, body and soul" to the gaycation or "be destroyed". I really cant't put into words how surreal it was, because he was speaking so matter of factly and he again insists this is a thing that straight men do all the time and how he's actually "doing it a bit late". I just said to him if he has any love for me then he can't go ahead with this and if he does, the marriage will be dead. We didn't speak anymore after that.
Since then he's mentioned no more of it but somehow, and this is what scares me a lot too, that decision genuinely seems to be tearing him up??? He didn't go into work on Monday (and only went in half a day yesterday) because he told them he just felt too ill and he just looks distraught every time I see him. I really don't think he's wholly gay though I can absolutely believe he's bi but I'd rather we talked about that in a healthy way rather than this incredibly weird denialism around going on a sex holiday to Ibiza.
Has anyone known straight guys to do this and come back and just go back to being straight. Like surely that can't be a thing that happens. I'm so out of my depth here and I just don't know how to even initiate the conversation. For the record I also haven't mentioned it to his sister yet, I don't know how I'd even break it to her. Thanks for any help, I just don't even want to think so being able to get this out there has helped even just a little bit. -
2024-12-08 at 11:55 AM UTC
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2024-12-08 at 11:18 PM UTC
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2024-12-09 at 6:06 AM UTCThinking about how Biden's agency is trying to NetB split on me so I can't communicate with real people
fake ass AI Lanny and such -
2024-12-09 at 6:06 AM UTC
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2024-12-09 at 8:14 AM UTCSand batteries. Entire cities can be powered by trapping heat in large amounts of sand. I know it's not as efficient but I wonder if a thermoelectric generator/peltier plates were connected, would it be better to have one cold sand battery and one hot one, and maybe use a heat transfer fluid? You'd only need it on the hot side I reckon
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2024-12-09 at 3:40 PM UTC
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2024-12-10 at 12:56 AM UTC
Originally posted by 6835378gjjsjs Sand batteries. Entire cities can be powered by trapping heat in large amounts of sand. I know it's not as efficient but I wonder if a thermoelectric generator/peltier plates were connected, would it be better to have one cold sand battery and one hot one, and maybe use a heat transfer fluid? You'd only need it on the hot side I reckon
sand cools off just a few inches below the surface. with the winds constantly blowing and shifting dunes, it wouldn't be efficient to generate much.
the solar panels have the silicate which is in sand. California Sand has it. you can see the natural glass crystals but not all sand has this. Not sure if the middle east has it.
Fun fact, Silicon Valley was named in the 1800s because the glass in the sand would be sold to companies like Tiffany and Boston Sandwich Glass and Pairpoint and many other famous glass companies used Northern California sand to make glass windows and products. It had nothing to do with the Computer industry that followed. Bell and Packer worked together and discovered that silicate could carry a proper signal in sandwich boards. There is a massive tunnel in the East Bay (Black diamond mines) which first dug coal and then realized how valuable the silicate was in the sand.
Speedy thinks no value exists in San Francisco. somehow his redneck sandy desert region is better than California -
2024-12-10 at 1:06 AM UTCDoing a smash-and-grab tonight in the city
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2024-12-10 at 8:06 PM UTCWhere to steal from next
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2024-12-11 at 6:21 AM UTCSalt Typhoon
Chinese hackers didn't just hack US telcos, they hacked the backdoor the feds forced them all to install so that they could covertly intercept calls/data -
2024-12-11 at 6:32 AM UTC
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2024-12-12 at 4:07 AM UTCLuigi. :)
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2024-12-12 at 4:08 AM UTCRun deep into the Hollows.
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2024-12-12 at 4:09 AM UTC
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2024-12-12 at 4:15 AM UTCYikes. U know that’s not true so why do u say it?
